There’s someone I met when I was a teenager and I still think about them. They’re married with kids now and we’ve lost contact. But throughout the years I’ve always felt that my life would somehow have been OK if I’d ended up with them.
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i did think that…
he was nasty when i dropped by on him with his new wife (who looked miserable)
he said do you want to hold him?
thrust kid at me, grabbed him back n said don’t come here again.
that helped me get over the guy
using his baby as a weapon!
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Nope. I’ve only ever had brief infatuations. And I haven’t liked anyone in over a year now.
I’m in this weird limbo. I don’t think I’m really attracted to guys my age. But I’m also not attracted to older guys who would go for someone my age because they’re generally not looking for good things if you know what I mean. So I’m just stuck until I get older.
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Do you know about the concepts of “externalizing solutions,” “the self-medication theory of addiction,” “romance addiction” or “co-dependence?”
I used to pine away over the loss of the “two-legged drugs” I was so sure could “fix” me. Dig into Anne Wilson Schafe, Edward Khantzian and Pia Mellody. See what comes up.
And don’t blame yourself. This culture we live in conditions, socializes, accustoms and normalizes us to all manner of addictions because there’s a whole bunch of money it it (for others).
Always… Follow the money.
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There are girls that I have passed up that I have looked back on and regretted not getting with them. They say there a men who are “diamonds in the rough”. That’s also true of women. There are a lot of women who are diamonds in the rough.
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Who doesn’t? Unless they’re currently in a relationship. I often think of all my past relationships and crushes and how differently my life could have turned out if things would have gone differently and I was still with them.
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Nope, not really.
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It’s better to fantasize about my past crushes than to ruin a good thing with the truth.
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yes unfortunately… I do still have that one guy I think about who I used to have a thing with.
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There are two for me. I really wish I had made a move when they put me in the position to do so. One of them I ended up completely distancing myself from saying I didn’t want a relationship etc which then cut that off. Another was long-distance, and only would have worked if I moved 300 miles away. 
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My first boyfriend.
Turns up he was an ambicious ■■■■■■ who now has a solid political future. Lets say that its the balkanian way to achieve a hollywood fame.
Kind of regreting. 
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Too many to count.
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Have you ever considered trying to get back with him?
Many people have come into my life and left my life… There was a girl when I was a teen… Very kind and patient… but then again… I was a teen.
When I broke… I was too ill and unsteady to be in a relationship.
The one I think about sometimes… the one I got away from. She wanted to keep partying and doing drugs… I hit a point in my life were I needed to clean up.
It was an ugly break-up. I got clean and sober… and got away from that life…
I found out… she passed away from an over dose… sometimes I wish she would have tried to get sober and clean with me.
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