My family is too high functioning for me, I feel too far from them. I want to live on my own and stay away from them but I cant manage living on my own. My mother is an accountant and my father is a retired engineer, one brother is an accountant and the other is an IT. They’re all working full time with their university degree.
They don’t give a sh!t about me, I stay in bed in my room all day. My brothers hangout together with tons of friends everyday while never asking me if I want to hangout and they rarely talk to me. When my family talk to me its only to tell me stop eating you’re too fat or dont change or stop your meds. My little brother has a boat but he never let me go on it.
The worse part is that I was more functional than them and was much better in school than them before sz, I wanted to be a Dr. They keep telling me that I will end up in the streets if I leave them. Fk this sz.
I live with my parents since getting diagnosed sz too. For the most part it’s a pretty good deal. My dad fixes a lot of the meals(sometimes I pay for takeout), does all the laundry, does the dishes etc. And I get along with them for the most part. Sure they can get a little annoying/naggy sometimes but I can put up with that. I pay rent, buy me and my moms cigarettes and sometimes buy food. I don’t know if you’ve ever lived on your own…but the costs and extra work/responsibilities involved is alot.
Yoo Aziz!!$ same here man, it’s not the same ever since I got really ill and they looked at me as different. I live with my parents too, I do my part and help with rent chores and groceries so they seem fine with it. Last time I tried living by myself I ended up with cuts on my mouth from an extreme episode of psychosis, so many of my health care team is against me moving out. Anyway I hope you can find home and comfort wherever you go buddy. Its a long road but I don’t doubt its in you. Take your time and things will fall into place, bro. Stay positive there is always a light at the end of a long tunnel.
i used to feel like i was not in the right family cause they are so different than me… but over time with the right meds i started to feel a bit better and accepted my family really as my own family.
They also say more to me now but still i am kinda lonely here…
sorry to hear they don’t really give you any attention that you need… it would be so great to go on the boat with your brother. Did you ever ask him if you could go with him on the boat?
I also thought that my family always pushed me. My family thought that I am actually not schizophrenic, just had drug induced psychosis. They forcrd me to do community work for payrolls, which was exhausting, shouted at me everytime i went chainsmoking due to anxiety and negative symptoms. Even when I managed to get back on my feet and find a job, whenever I asked like 50£ to make to the end of thr month i was shouted at for not making enough money for myself as I was working 50hours a week manual labor. Only when I relapsed at my moms in front of her eyes out of the blue (no alcohol or drugs were involved) then they changrd their opinion of me and started to talk with me with a person I am - a heavily ill one. Since that relapse, my mom has been sweet, buying almost everything I I need and does all the cooking. Now my sister does not bat an eye when I ask for some cash for me and my mom.
The small family i used to have didn’t like me bcuz I had darker skin than them, when I was like 7 at Thanksgiving they said “you belong out in the fields picking oranges” fck those racist a**holes, I would have given all the fake ass family I had to have met my real grandpa, my step grandpa was a dck
In summary yes I never felt I belonged to my family, but my mom is nice now so things are good.
My parents are not alike me. I’m spiritual, and messy.
They’re organized but that’s def not where our relationships come to a crossroads. We have very different philosophy and views on a lot of things.
I don’t fight with my parents anymore but some of their beliefs don’t help me. I’ve moved back home. I need them and they’ve been decent to me but my dad just has this way about him. Idk were just very different folk.
Sometimes I say some harsh things to myself about my parents but hardly ever in their presence. Gotta get along. I put more an effort than they do these days but maybe it’s too late to mend our relationship
I think your brothers may not know if you’re interested in hanging out with them. If you are, start bathing and just ask if they mind if you hang with them for a bit. Just try it. You never know.
I’m sorry that’s happening to you. I don’t know what the answer is. I wish you could at least work it out with your family, but I guess that’s not possible.
I used to work, now im jobeless dur to my mini hypomania episode. I quit my okd job that I was able to work and started a new one and quit after 3 weeks. I am on a lookout fot a low end, minimum effort job, buy in 16k people town its difficult. I was also called a social parasite bt distant family members, and it was during my grandmothers funeral. Whoever said that, made me hallucinate for hours and had a lot of anger, that looked if i had a knife i would have stabbed him. Since that day I am heavily cobsidering a care home option. Also because he caused my positives worsened i wasnt able to attend the burrying of ky grandmother
