I woke up this morning and just felt ashamed of the way my life turned out. It was a very strong feeling. It felt like a moment of clarity.
I used to be ambitious and so the way my life turned out is a very bitter pill to swallow.
But I’ve never actually felt ashamed about it before, so this is new.
I still feel like there is a window of opportunity to make something of it. Maybe in 20 years when I’m 55 I’ll feel alike.
I was moved to a school for academically high-performing students in grade seven. I’ve reconnected with some of my classmates from there over the past few years. Them:
Me:
I’m not ashamed of myself because I’ve pulled through what many did not, but… There are some pangs of regret for sure.
I hardly feel ashamed disappointed yes but with age you go through steps and at this age feeling unaccomplishable is a big step this means that you have to accept the facts that you don’t want to and have tried to suppress for years to not knowing about it now that you’re older you find yourself having to take steps to make your life live longer this is a shameful thing to feel so with this I say to you you’re not alone in the struggle
All the time. I’m super ashamed that I can’t handle things. I often feel so stupid too. I have a hard time thinking clearly. It’s like I have almost no thoughts at all sometimes. Like I have to climb through mud to get to my thoughts. And I’m ashamed of that too. I don’t work and I’m struggling cognitively. It’s embarrassing
This feeling is unnecessary. This shame is generated by comparing yourself to others.
You are what you are; and this societal need of constant comparison drives society to the miserable state it is in.
Most people are acting ‘happy’ but deep down this constant longing and desire for things annihilates thier soul.
Learn about yourself, not what others want and be it. Some peace can be found there at least.
The revolution is in your mind.
Yup. I am like amongst the lowest educated in my old rehab group. Just have a good family background. That’s all.
I used to be very ambitious before SZ and now I stil am but not on the level as it was before 
I wish I could work.
That aside, I’m pretty proud of how my life turned out.
I’ve overcome a lot, carried on through tragedy, and been a generally decent person despite being a hateful ■■■■■ at my core.
It’s not a lot in comparison to my peers.
My own best friend is a doctor,
They’re attorneys and teachers and c levels at tech companies.
I’m a housewife that doesn’t even have children to care for.
I just sit around and try not to be crazy all day.
It’s all I’ve got and I’ve got no other choice than to be proud of it.
You can’t allow yourself to become ashamed.
You are a person who gives consistently solid advice on this forum,
You are a poet,
You have a lot more to be proud of than you think and just need to appreciate how stable you’ve kept yourself.
Be proud of that ■■■■.
It matters.
I’m embarrassed about my diagnosis and being on SSI and living with my dad and stepmom.
Yep. Me too.
I am trying to be less ashamed, but it’s hard. My big accomplishment this week was fighting my severe agoraphobia and taking the trash to the dumpster around the corner by myself.
Far cry from the super achieving straight A student I was before my mental illnesses exploded.
Yes, it’s difficult when your achievements are so small compared to the supposedly super bright future everyone said I had.
Absolutely, I actually woke up this morning feeling the same way. I do feel it’s misplaced because I’m not responsible for my illness but it’s still there.
I’m very happy and satisfied with life so far.
It could be way worse
I feel actually less ashamed about how I’ve “turned out” than I expected to be. Right now I feel much less “shattered” than I have before and while it’s not ideal it is a massive improvement from how it’s been before.
Yeah sometimes. I wish i was more “normal” , less sensitive to everything…
I wish I would have done things differently when I was able to do something with my life. Now it’s hard to stay alive.
I used to be ashamed because I compared myself constantly to my successful twin. I am happier now that I don’t do it as much.
I am not ashamed at all. It is a tough pill to swallow (figuratively) but the positives for me far outweigh the negatives. If anything, I think I am too hard on myself. One thing that is keeping me strong is God.
Don’t feel ashamed focus on a positive present and future.
Shame is a cultural thing, see Cultural Models of Shame and Guilt.