Simple yes or no
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I used to be really ashamed about my past. When I was 18 I was ashamed of who I was when I was 15. When I was 23 I was ashamed of who I was at 20. At 28 ashamed of 25. At 31 was ashamed of 28. Until lately I’m never ashamed of the past. The past is the past. And you can’t change it. This has been a key in my recovery. Living presently but also forgiving yourself and acceptance and willingness to change maybe.
Not really ashamed but I wasted almost 20 years.
Do you think being ashamed of the past is a sign you’re improving but just not “there” yet. It was possibly in my case at least
I’ve pulled some good ones, and I can probably rationalize them all. I go back and forth inside myself when I’m in bed at night.
Happy cake or birth-day. Which ever it may be.
Dont know if it means youre improving. I would think improvement would have some obvious measures. I guess in some cases a person who has transformed their life would feel shame at their old life. However i dont think feeling ashamed is necessary, in fact its probably better to focus on the now than then.
I guess I am because I am not happy to say out loud some of the things I did.
I do regret things.
But obviously what’s done is done, accept, learn, live.
Yes but I try to not think about it as I was psychotic.
I voted “yes”.
I was an undiagnosed schizophrenic, undiagnosed alcoholic, unwanted by his family. So maybe because of that, I ended up engaging in a lot of self destructive behaviour.
I have one thing I’m really ashamed of too to say out loud. (Like on the forum). But at the same time I learned a great amount of many lessons from it. The guilt is much less. Although still there. But just because it’s not something I brag about ever or anything and don’t wanna relive the story too much doesn’t mean I didn’t learn a lot though. I wouldn’t repeat the experience but I think 20 years from now I will ibe better off for it. There’s some truth Although its not necessary , That you have to hit rock bottom to get help. Well this was rock bottom for me. And it wasn’t exactly an overnight transformation. It taught me a lot. So im not ashamed per say. But I do have guilt and unwilling to tell the story. Thanks for listening and maybe you thought something helpful from this. I hope so @Zoe
And everyone else ashamed
Take care
Yea, we have to make the most of our mistakes otherwise we just dwell on them.
I put no, but the answer is more complicated. Am I ashamed of having SZ or how I behaved when delusional? Nope. Am I ashamed of being an alcholic/addict? Nope. Am I ashamed of my dishonest and abusive actions when I was younger? Yup. Those were on me, not the illnesses I had, and it took a lot work to become someone who behaved better towards others.
Maybe I do have shame but it’s definitely way less than it used to be. Thanks for your answers everyone.
No dude I kicked that guy’s ass back into the far reaches of my memory where the sun don’t shine.
I’m not too ashamed over much of the past, but I often feel regret at the perceived “lost potential” of my life had I not become sick. I did very well academically when I was young and thought my life would follow a certain path…SZA took that away from me. However, if I had gotten the chance to go thru medical school like I wanted, I probably would’ve ended up as one of those docs who’s a real a-hole cuz I never would’ve learned the humbleness that SZA has given me, the ability to empathize.
I slept with a couple of dudes. 2. I didn’t want to have sex with them but I didn’t have the self esteem to say “Don’t touch me you selfish pig!” They used me and I gave something precious away.
Not ashamed but fully aware of the ugly stuff. For me, honest self-awareness helps keep me on a more even keel, and can keep me from (hopefully) making the same mistake twice
Yes I’m ashamed of what happened and what I did when I got I’ll.
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