Sometimes comparing myself to others I feel like I haven’t accomplished anything and am a loser. I suppose I just can’t compete in the world of competitive adulthood.
Is it normal to have feelings like this? Do you ever feel like this? Would you consider yourself a winner or a loser?
Right now I feel like a looser. I just went to my high school’s carnival with a friend. It is a very elite private high school that I got a full scholarship to. I had many friends and was a good student. Going back there maybe hit me in a bad way. I feel like young people are surpassing me and I am staying in the same place. It is not that rational because I start working tomorrow and have friends who might want to live together with one day. Seems like things aren’t so bad I guess. But feeling like a looser doesn’t matter if you’re working or not. I feel mad at myself for freaking out over a measly office job. Compared to the average person my age with schizophrenia, I think I’m living the dream. But I feel like a looser. My parents can’t help it. They shout at me as soon as they see me do something vaguely abnormal.
I’m a loser for them but I don’t care about their vain world of competitive adulthood.
I like you, @zeno. 
Have you ever called loser to a person with cancer? No? Im ill too but not a loser
Sometimes I do. When I compare myself to the normie world, I feel unsuccessful, a loser. It’s normal to feel this way, but don’t make it a habit. Given my situation, I think I’ve done well for myself-- I have a job and a few friends. Relatively speaking, a loser I am not. And neither you!
Yes I do often feel like a loser
I used to feel like a loser, but not anymore. It’s useless keeping thinking negatively. I stopped doing that and now just focus on what I still have and what I can do.
I am looser too…!!! Fu ck this life…!!!
@far_cry0. You’re not a loser
I think if I didn’t have schizophrenia my life would have been much better
Only when I lose.
In AA they say, “Don’t compare your inside with other peoples outside.”
Those people you see in public or at work or school who look like they have it made may in fact be going through stuff you couldn’t guess at.
The guy in the Mercedes at the stoplight may have just lost his job and his wife that day and has a $20,000 credit card debt that he can’t pay. In fact a LOT of Americans are in debt. I read somewhere that average American has something like $10,000 in credit card debt.
So if you don’t owe any money, you are more successful than all these guys you see walking around thinking they’re so cool.
Another statistic is that about 25 % of Americans have been in either jail or prison in the past, or they are currently in jail or prison or or are on probation. If we keep our noses clean and not do anything stupid us schizophrenics can actually be better than other people.
That’s kind of a given.
Yes very often. Except I don’t compare myself to others, I compare myself to the idealized version I had of my adult self I made as a child. That makes me feel like a failure. God I wish I could let that ideal die.
I’ve always liked that AA aphorism. There is a poem called “Richard Cory” that goes along those lines. You might read it, if you haven’t already.
I think thats something everyone feels at times. The key is to not compare yourself to others, but focus on how you are doing today, compared to yesterday or last week or last month - and focus on things that are improving, and learning from things that didn’t work.
Paul McCartney and Wings. You might have heard of them.
Richard Cory Wings Live 1975
Lyrics
They say that Richard Cory owns one half of this whole town
With political connections to spread his wealth around
Born into society, a banker’s only child
He had everything a man could want, power, grace, and style
But I work in his factory
And I curse the life I’m living
And I curse my poverty
And I wish that I could be
Oh, I wish that I could be
Oh, I wish that I could be
Richard Cory
The papers print his picture almost everywhere he goes
Richard Cory at the opera, Richard Cory at a show
And the rumor of his parties and the orgies on his yacht
Oh, he surely must be happy with everything he’s got
But I work in his factory
And I curse the life I’m living
And I curse my poverty
And I wish that I could be
Oh, I wish that I could be
Oh, I wish that I could be
Richard Cory
He freely gave to charity, he had the common touch
And they were grateful for his patronage and thanked him very much
So my mind was filled with wonder when the evening headlines read
"Richard Cory went home last night and put a bullet through his head
But I work in his factory
And I curse the life I’m living
And I curse my poverty
And I wish that I could be
Oh, I wish that I could be
Oh, I wish that I could be
Richard Cory
That’s a very good take on the original poem. I like it.
A great friend of mine once told me something he heard in a film: “You can’t always win, but you can’t lose forever.”
None of us are losers.
I constantly think people I know think I’m a loser.
That way of thinking is ingrained in me