I always lose, so I guess so. A loser who does pretty damn good in certain areas of life. I kicked a drug habit so I guess that winning. I’m pretty competitive when it comes to certain things and I like to win, like games and in some jobs I was pretty competitive.
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I played a lot of bottom grade cricket. It’s competitive with mostly normal people and I had seasons where we didn’t even win a game and finished dead last. I had good games within that and did a job so even losing you can be better than most and do it with a lot of dignity.
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Well, it’s hard to keep up self-esteem but I try to do that by avoiding social media which often makes me compare myself to others. I have hope that this illness will improve over time and I’ll be able to achieve more in future so I’m a hopeful loser.
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Right now I feel like a big loser because I screwed my life up with edibles. But I don’t think it’s beyond fixing, I’ve just really done a number on myself and it will take time to come back.
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Sometimes I feel like a loser. Sometimes don’t. Positive self regard is something which keeps fluctuating I think. Even for normal people.
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I know you think you messed yourself up, but I OD’d on cough syrup and Benadryl and I am fine. THC isn’t going to do any long term damage to you, you will be fine as long as you avoid it.
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If you loose your self makes you loser
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■■■■ ■■■■ nah testing censor
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I felt like a total loser and failure for many years after losing my license. But, nowadays, I don’t because of who I work for on my volunteer job.
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It sounds like you’re looking at yourself through distorted glass. I don’t think you’re being fair to yourself. Getting a degree is something that you do, not who you are
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And therein lies the crux. Compared to your average working Joe, I’m a bum. But for someone struggling with mental illness and a head injury, I’m doing quite well. You need to put things in their proper context, or it will eat you alive
“I’m a loser baby… so why don’t you kill me…” sorry that song just popped to mind
As far as me feeling like a loser, it all depends on the day. I’m becoming more positive with time, but there are still times I look at my life and think of what a mess it is compared how normal people might live their life. It’s really perspective
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It is easy to consider myself a loser in the sense that what if I die prematurely. But I try not to focus on it like that. I want to live a full life.
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I do, but only because I’m spending all my time in bed. Wanting or planning to do things isn’t actually doing them. Consequently, my hubby cooks, cleans, works, and deals with the kids and the puppy. I would not feel like a loser because of disability. It’s that I feel like I’m not being the partner hubby needs or the mom my kids need.
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Well, I’ve talked with my husband and mom about not using my bachelor degree. I’m doing better as a massage therapist. I was in jobs where there was a lot of competition when I used my bachelor degree. It wasn’t good for me. So, I’m feeling better now.
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To use a football analogy: I’m like the person who could’ve had a good career as a premier league footballer if he hadn’t been viciously fouled during a youth game. With the injury then being inadequately treated.
That person can talk a good game but can’t display it on the pitch.That’s me and my mind. I’ve always had the footballing knowledge = IQ, but not the ability to use it = can’t get on the pitch to actually play.
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Sometimes i feel like a loser.
But not everyday.
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No. I quit trying when I knew I couldn’t win no matter how hard I tried. I don’t regret my life choices.
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I’ve always been good at getting through school, but I fail at the job. I’m good at writing and publishing the book, and good at composing and recording the music, but I totally fail at promoting and selling my products. So, ultimately, I’m a loser.
@Cragger @firemonkey
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@firemonkey yes I understand that very well. I’ve been sidelined too, there is zero hope of me ever returning to programming. I spent years wishing I could get back to where I started, but that’s just not going to happen. Accepting that I will never be the same again, has Set Me Free in a sense to focus on other parts of my life. I hope you can still find pleasure in life
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Haha, I’m in the same boat. I can write record and mix music, but I have no idea how to make a sale. But is the label of being a loser coming from within you, or imposed by society? I don’t consider myself a winner in terms of success, but I certainly don’t consider myself a loser either
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