Did you change your surname?

For any reason ? Did you? Would you ? If so what would be the reason. ?

I hyphenated our names because we wanted to it’s also a social signifier.

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When I was a kid I got bullied over my surname I definately changing it at some point.

I would be proud to keep my heritage if I were you. Indian names are beautiful.

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I wish I felt that way about my heritage. To me it’s a surname id gladly part with.

Was in from school kids bullying your name cause it was different - or do you not like it yourself?

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I think both I hate it caused me to be bullied. It’s got a lot of negativity associated with it.

Ouch - so they won.

I believe in owning and changing the narrative. That construct made you feel bad. And throwing it away feels like you want to erase it.

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My maiden name was OK. But I love my husband’s last name a lot, so I was excited to take it when we got married. And I liked the idea of us having the same last name.

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I took my husband’s last name. My maiden name is my middle name now.

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I love last names that are first and middle names. @rocket

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My last name now is a mashup- no nice ring to it really. - its Puerto Rican + Vietnamese.

But I like it.

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I got bullied for having a Jewish name at a Catholic school. I eventually owned it and it helped me develop the belief I was Jesus reincarnated haha. No it’s all true but seriously I owned up to it I’m proud I’m half Jewish now. But there’s somethings it’s hard to own up to in bullying especially when they’re lies. What do u do when the bully makes something up about u playing off your ignorance of the situation…it’s hard.

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@rocket
That’s how I feel. Own it.

But if you don’t like it - definitely change it.

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Don’t change your surname @ish
You should be proud of your Indian heritage

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I have a rare hard to pronounce Albanian last name.
I would never change my ancestors name.
Never.

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I would if I lived in another country and wanted to blend in more. But right now there’s no need for that.

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Usually when a woman gets married, traditionally she takes on her partners surname. It will happen in my case too… I guess I can keep it as my middle name but I haven’t made the decision yet.

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I’m a triple mix, I’ve been made fun because of that, mostly called a mutt.

My surname is Scottish in origin, but I’m only 1/4 Scottish, I’m 1/2 English and the other 1/4 is French.

Don’t be ashamed of your heritage, embrace it. You gotta learn how to put a positive spin on your heritage. When someone would make fun of me for being a mix I’d tell them “I’m a triple threat, I have the intelligence of an Englishman, the humour of a Scotsman and that certain je ne sais quoi of a Frenchman, what do you have… insert negative stereotype of their heritage”. That usually shut them up. Sometimes you have to give people a taste of their own medicine.

I like my surname so I wouldn’t change it.

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I wanted to, because I hated it.

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