well most of my friends became adults, got married, had kids. now we are just so different than before. my one friend who lives in town, we used to be roommates and go to the bar together. now he wont even have a beer with me. we still hangout on occasion, but he is so serious and focused on his career. it’s like he has lost his sense of humour. me i havent grown up much, and still have similar interests as when i was in my 20’s.
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Dis man assuming i have friends, cute
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Yes. I don’t even have contact with my old friends, just 2 in passing on FB. The rest are long gone.
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I think the biggest split in how my friends turned out was drug use. Some quit and got their lives together and some are just wasting their lives or dead. I kind of wish I didn’t know the ones who didn’t get their lives together, it always feels awkward that we are just totally different people.
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Yes I lost all my friends due to sz. I made 3 who are single while on Abilify and they’re still contacting me video call but I never hangout with them now bcz I don’t have money and feel uncomfortable outside my house.
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well i guess i have grown up some. but mostly im the same. with a little more money saved is the difference.
yeah, sometimes life takes the life out of some people lol.
its a kind reminder to not lose your soul, and enjoy each day.
also people do get really busy in there lives. and different stages.
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I hopped a train in Tulsa, Oklahoma one time with the crazy idea that I would visit a high school friend in Florida. I’m sure that would have gone over like a lead balloon. I got arrested in Jackson, Tennessee for carrying a concealed deadly weapon - a knife. I spent two months without a trial in Jackson, and then they shipped me to the state mental hospital for four months.
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The ones that had kids (most of them) changed a lot.
With some exceptions.
Those of us that chose not to have children kind of gravitated toward each other.
Most of them haven’t changed much.
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No. Our lives got busy and I wouldn’t see them as often but I’m still tight with half a dozen people I’ve met in highschool. People don’t really change.
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My friends stopped talking to me after I became schizophrenic
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when i was 18 i had about 5 friends…now at 44 i have none…they were all disloyal…they walked away when i got mental illness
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Yes. I feel way more self conscious anxious etc cos of my symptoms. Sux really. But I hope to recover thou.
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My best friend I had got married n has children n work.
I’m not the god mother of her children.
I’m noones godmother ha ha ha ha ha
We email once in blue moon but don’t met haven’t for ten years I think.
I have a friend in Sweden I call sometimes.
He is awesome.great friend.
Have some spirit friends I think.
I lost most of my friends.
I don’t have many left and the ones I do have we don’t hang out n live far away from each other.
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I have one friend left, things change a lot of times when friends get married and I have probably changed too…I wish things could always be the same but people change…people grow apart…sometimes I don’t feel like I adapted well to change.
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Not too much- my good friends have stuck around, of course we don’t see each other everyday like we did before but we message/text quiet often. I’ve had a few dump me (even before schizophrenia so I don’t know what went wrong)
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I lost most of my friends in one fell swoop about 18 months ago. Long story short, they came to my house, ate all our food, never said thank you, and when there was nothing left for them to harvest, I told them all to leave on their own power, or go out head first. There was some yelling but they all left with no damage done to property or persons.
Now I’m kind of isolated, and I’m enjoying that. No awkward discussions, nobody dropping by unexpectedly. These days I have a very low tolerance level, one you might share perhaps for stupid bull$hit.
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As a kid and teen, friend groups were a lot more hierarchical I think. That goes away in adulthood, or at least it did for me.
I really barely see my friends anymore. I still talk with my old college buddies regularly but they live in a different state from me. The friends I have here we just have our own lives and I get all the socialization I need from my relationship.
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