I had someone add me this morning who I have not seen since I was 16 years old (I am 32 now)
Anyone else have something similar happen?
I have exchanged a few texts on messenger, and we have told each other what we have been up too.
I am worried he will want to actually meet me.
These things make me paranoid, and him now being friends with me will show my profile to other people from that era who I really could not deal with talking to right now.
I wish I had left the friend request button switched off
It upsets me also how far in their lives the group have gone in terms of being married with kids.
Personally I would tell him I have sz. That’s what I did and most stopped talking to me except 2-3 friends which I told them I can’t hang out with them because of my sz. They understood and just video call me now. Sometimes they’re annoying telling me I am as smart as the psychiatrist, that I don’t have mental illness and to not take my meds.
I learned to ignore them and change subject.
People from my past scare the â– â– â– â– out of me, but I know they must have matured a bit and gotten on with life better than the days we used to mix.
He seems to have sorted his life out, but I am not sure I am willing to risk re-engaging with someone from my drug taking days.
I no longer use my full name on Facebook to discourage people from finding me. It’s not a matter of how successful I am versus them, I don’t think in those terms as I don’t view life as some sort of contest where I win if I have better stuff or a hotter wife or more kids. I’m just not the person now I was back then and have no interest in the druggies and alkies I hung with finding me now. The few times people have, I’ve ghosted them.
I was upset because I have pretty much recovered much of my life to the best degree an ex-addict can have, but the sticking point has been unable to find a partner and settle down - which they have managed to do and also are clean now
It really bothers me that something so important as having a significant other in your life is just that bit far out to reach, and it plays on my mind a lot.
I know it’s my fault for being who/like I am, but from those days I still feel scarred enough to have not moved on with trust issues and being able to form decent bonds with people my own age
I think it will happen when it’s meant to. The universe just works out that way. It seems to me like you’re working hard towards recovery and will get there. A suggestion… Volunteer work is a wonderful way to meet like-minded people, ones who care about other people. You’ll also find that men are generally outnumbered by ladies when volunteering, which is good news for you!
Not at all. You suffer from MI and that’s not something that comes with an off switch. You can learn to work around it, but that takes time.
FYI, I’m 51 right now. I was 30 when I met Mrs. Squirrel back in 1999 (singles ad online) and we married in July of 2000 when I was 31 years old. It used to really bother me in my 20s that I wasn’t in a serious relationship and then things just suddenly came together. I mean really came together. The only surprise was having the kid as I was supposed to be sterile. Turns out I had a few rounds for my gun after all. Not that I mind, she’s awesome.
All of this is to say that I think you’re on the right track and there’s hope. Maybe you need to make some adjustments, but you certainly shouldn’t look at yourself as a failure, because you’re not.
Last week I tried volunteering at a plant and flowers sale until the older woman running it said, Are you ok? Do you want to help?
Well, for one thing, I was suppsed to be loading the cars and trucks, AND we were supposed to be practicing social distancing. Made me think instantly they knew I had schizophrenia, and assumed I was brain dead.
If he doesn’t use drugs and you want to hangout with him then do it. Otherwise just tell him you can’t hangout with him because of sz (That’s what I do with my 3 friends that I only speak to through videochat). My friends insist on me to hangout with them but I tell them I can’t bcz of my sz. They understand.
Me? I don’t feel comfortable hanging out with my friends bcz of negative symptoms. I never go out of my house now. I was hanging out with them when I was on Abilify which improved my negative symptoms but I stopped Abilify due to bad side effects.
