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Bracing for turning 42 pretty soon

#1

It’s not a midlife crisis like two years ago but in six weeks i’ll be 42 years old. I own nothing really but this laptop a bunch of books and my clothes. I don’t have a job seven months after graduating not still. My husband and I don’t get along. Only thing that makes me happy is taking care of my boys and visiting my daughter. But, I have my moments when I wish for a love life and it makes me sad and the likelihood I’ll ever get one is slim and I"m getting older every year. desimb

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#2

I get depressed around my birthday, i think of all the time i’m wasting while i’m sick. I can’t help but think i have done nothing worth of living. Sorry for the downer post, i’m feeling a little depressed lately.

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#3

42 is not old and your life is not over, your are intelligent , a successful mother, and you care about your children.
sometimes, i personally think every 5 years we should review our life to see if it is where we want it /is it fullfiling/ and so on…
maybe you should go on a date night with your husband , not talking about kids, work, bills etc.
get to know each other again .
take care

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#4

I’ve survived 30 years without love. No wife, no kids. It actually doesn’t bother me. I have my family I grew up with. I’ve had friends, dated minimally, that’s my history. It’s sad that you don’t get the love life you want. You’re not that old, there’s still time. Lots of men like and appreciate a smart and caring women like yourself.

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#5

Maybe you could take up a hobby?

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#6

I will be 47 in this year and I have no kids nor a spouse. You have been able to create your own family, which is a good achievement. I wish I could have, but I suppose I have been a loser type. Of course, szs live shorter lives than normal people, but if you are just 42 I could imagine you living still 40 years. You can achieve a lot in this years.

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#7

Your children will always be your children no matter what, your husband on the other hand, may, or may not always be your husband.

Happiness doesn’t have an expiration date, so it’s never too late find it.

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#8

42 is still young - age is but a number

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#9

You are not a loser mjseu! Don’t say that again! Don’t think it! Don’t even let the idea breathe! You are stable right now. It might not be what you want, but that is the gift you have for all of your hard work. I have found it is important not to focus on what we want, but what we have.

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