My fiancée. Quite literally.
I did one night stands before
but I found out I am fully demisexual in a lot of ways
I have to feel a connection before being and having itimacy
I have sexual attraction before a connection is made. HOWEVER, I do not like to be sexually intimate until me and that person are emotionally connected.
EDIT: That was before hubby. Hubby is my only partner for the last 7.5 years.
I feel things deep
I read its both a blessing and a curse to feel things ââdeepââ
Itâs kind of funny that her an I got together, she needing a strong connection vs hypersexual ex swinger me.
We even each other out a lot. Sheâs became open to new ideas with me, and she helps ground me and keep my feet on terra.
Itâs a good mix.
Hey thatâs me 
Why not demigodsexual
I have to love someone before i pork them. Even the nieghbour down the road that sells it. It cheapens me otherwise.
Iâve never heard that word before but I think that describes me.
I see a lot of beautiful women and think sexual things about them but Iâm not really comfortable actually fooling around with women I donât know.
sounds like normal functioning sexuality.
My friend is this. I was really surprised because sheâs quite similar to me in a lot of ways. But she says she just never finds random strangers sexy/hot.
Like if you have never walked past someone and thought âwow they are stunningâ this is basically demisexual. I feel like I have done this countless times since being fairly young.
I can identify with the statement, but I donât feel the need to identify as demisexual. I guess I donât feel the need for labels.
Never understood this one. To me the definition of sexual attraction means based on the senses. Like your eyes are literally hardwired to your penis. The idea of becoming sexually attracted to the personality is strange to me. I understand gay straight and bi just fine but the rest⊠well, Iâm going to take their word for it.
I donât know how to explain it, exactly. But, I have only once in my life experienced attraction just by seeing someone. It was my college boyfriend. He walked into the room and I was immediately like âdamn thats a nice looking guy! His tongue should be in my mouth at the earliest opportunity!â I imagine this is how non-asexual people feel when they see someone cute.
Every single other person I have ever wanted to kiss, I only felt that way after knowing them a minimum of 4 months. Even with celebrity crushes, I donât typically like celebrities. I like specific characters, and am not attracted to the celebrity when theyâre out of character.
When I first started dating Mr. Star, I did not find him attractive at all. And like, heâs an objectively super duper hot guy (many people agree). But I did not think twice about the concept of kissing him until rather far into our courtship.
Mr. Star doesnât use labels, but the first time someone came out to him as demi-sexual, he asked what that meant. She explained it, and he said âbut isnât that just how everyone feels? How would you know if someone is cute without knowing what theyâre like?â The concept of immediate physical attraction seems so alien to us that most of us grew up assuming it was just made up for movies, like dragons and space ships.
I donât want to have sex with someone just by looking at them but I may be attracted to them in a kissing sense just by seeing them. Iâm not sure. But I would not actually want to kiss until I know them better.
Defo defo need an emotional trusting connection first for feeling the want for sex.
Having said that I do feel an attraction to certain people before even having gotten to know them, I donât know what to call that type of attraction.
ActuallyâŠ
I do feel a sexual attraction sometimes when first seeing someone, meeting someone, but that doesnât mean I want to go ahead with it
See, I would not feel that attraction. The person literally wouldnât even occur to me as a romantic possibility. And then one day, months or years down the road, that person might tell a silly joke, or smile on a certain way, or whatever. And then, suddenly, they are sexy as hell.
For Mr. Star, I first found him attractive when we were at a concert together and i got to see him smile while he enjoyed music. We had already been dating for 4 months or so, but we knew we were both demI/aceish, so it wasnât weird for us to date someone with the hopes that an attraction would develop later on.
I think thatâs really cool
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