True. But still would advise that the person gets to know you first before revealing something like that. Maybe second or third date.
Probably a good idea though I just disclose it right off the bat like nothing if the discussion happens to lead to it somehow. I also have no interest in being with someone probably for the next several years because of how abusive my ex-wife was and Iām socially awkward and like a million other things not helping me get a girlfriend.
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imo, Yes, at least after the third date. Theyāre going to find out sooner or later anyway.
I got a wonderful woman and a great relationship. What do you have? You can take that self-righteousness and stick it.
Why would you ever not tell someone your dating?? You donāt have to tell right away, but it shows you have no trust for them if you donāt tell them eventually, and if they donāt wanna be with you after they find out, thatās all the more reason to tell them. Iāve told every guy Iāve dated, and because of it I have never questioned whether a guy likes me for who I am. If someone canāt love all of you, why would you wanna be with them anyway? No one has ever broken up with me for being schizophrenic
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Hi. My fiancĆ© has sz and he was upfront with me in the beginning and Iām thankful for his honesty. Even though he told me and I did a little research I had NO idea what I was getting myself into, if he hadnāt of told me in the beginning that he had sz I would hate him today.
He is a beautiful man and Iāve NEVER had this kinda of connection with anyone before, Iām 48 and Iāve been married 2 times.
In June my fiancĆ© got attached to a very charismatic church and it was a great experience until he started to believe that he overcame the devil and that God healed him of sz. The Pastor knew about him having sz and told him that yes he is healed and told me that it wasnāt my place to talk about his sz meds. OMG!! I didnāt understand at the time but I knew that something was wrong and that my finances behavior was offā¦
It got worse before it got better, he would rage and say HORRIBLE things to me, he beat his son up in a rage and bruised his ribs (a neighbor called CPS but CPS didnāt do anything because my fiancĆ© sees his Dr once a month and the kids are in therapy) and about a month ago he spit on me and and told me to get the F out of his life. After that I walked away and said that if he did not go to the hospital that I was done!! He self admitted himself and he had to have his meds completely changed. We are still going through a very hard time and Iām in a full blown depression and struggling with my own demonsā¦
SOā¦ YES PLEASE BE UPFRONT ABOUT YOUR CONDITION, HONESTLY IS VITAL!!
btwā¦ Happy New Year! May 2016 be a hell of a lot better than 2015!!
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Iām so sorry for all thats happened to you! I hope everything gets worked out! Good luck
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Would you ever think about leaving him? If itās too painful to answer, feel free not too.
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There are good people and bad people. Sorry you had to go through bad experiences.
But no matter what illness a person had, I would run far away from anyone that shows physical violence, especially towards his own child!
This was a warning. He was honest about sz, but not about his propensity for bad temper.
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I am a newly found bachelor and I date on p o f. I am always up front about my illness because I get turned down A LOT for having schizophrenia.
i am on pof too but i canāt seem to get a date, i have been single for a long time now but i still see my friend a lot who happens to be my ex, i am looking for a person who can accept my friend and also start a life with me, its not looking good for me though.
I think about it a lot lately, I told the family therapist in private that I donāt know if I can stay with him and she suggested that if I decide to leave to do it during a counseling session. I moved to another state to start a life with this man and he stopped taking his meds and my world fell apart. We went to high school together and we reconnected through FB a few years ago, I made several trips to be with him and he was very stableā¦ My life has been turned upside down and now that the holidays are over I need to make some very important decisions about my future.
Thank you guys for replying to me, I feel so alone in this nightmare.
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Thank youš You reply means a lot to meš
Thatās why this is for support.
I used to feel so alone in the grip of psychosis but God is always in our hearts if we allow him to enter.
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Not on a first date, but if it feels like youāre getting into a serious relationship you would want to tell him then.
imo most people donāt know or understand the word,āāschizophreniaāā it builds the wrong picture in their mind.
even in the media itās portrayed in a scary way, the true meaning is lost and not taught right to the public which leads to a type of stigma
Yeah i think you shouldā¦ Itāll let you tell your whole storyā¦ And also you get to see if they actually cool or not when you tell them.
Im currently talking to a girl and when i told her she lit up and i can speak openly about any of it.
Bipolar folks are a lot more understanding alsoā¦ They are good for reality checking things because delusions arenāt really a feature of their illness.
I told my girlfriend after about 2 weeks. I feel that in a serious relationship, you have to disclose this information. I was at a get together with friends and stupidly drank alcohol for the first time in a year and had a pretty severe two minute episode that she was there to see. But because she knew what was going on she handled it very well and calmed me down. If she has no idea about my illness she probably wouldāve freaked out and had no idea what was going on.
So I think itās better that a significant other knows about our illnesses in case on the off chance they witness it first hand. If itās a serious relationship, youād be spending a lot of time with this person, so there is a chance an episode could occur, or that they could notice some symptoms. If they know about the illness they could act with compassion instead of maybe confusion or worse being scared.
At times my last relationship caused a lot of stress ā¦i am not that keen on a another one for now