I’ve notived a lot of you are calorie counting.
How do you guys do it without letting it become an obsession?
I know if I had to weight my food and calculate the calories, to make sure I didn’t exeed a certain limit, I would quickly end up with an eating disorder.
I’m prone to those.
I want to lose weight, and I wish I could do calorie counting, but I’m so scared of the consequences.
I want to be healthy, not thin.
How do you guys do it?
Guys tend to lose weight for athletic contests. For vanity, not so much. It’s not macho. One time during the wrestling season I was a week into my hard weight losing regimen for wrestling. One of my friends came over and wanted to smoke a couple of joints. I agreed. Big mistake. After we smoked the weed he had this big bag of full sized candy bars in the back seat. I ate every one of those candy bars. When he found out he yelled at me, “You ate seven-teen candy bars!” Then we went to the pizza place, and he got onto an involved conversation on the phone. I ate every piece of his pizza, except one. I think we went to the donut shop after that. When I came back to the mat room that Monday I had gained a lot of weight, but I still had time to make weight, and I got down to the right weight before our first match.
I appreciate the story, and I don’t mean to be rude, but that post doesn’t really answer any of my questions
It’s really hard to lose weight on APs; since they constantly restrict the amount of dopamine in your system causing you to always feel hunger.
Like you said; stay healthy, dont worry about your weight. Eating right is the answer.
Dont starve yourself, don’t exercise too much; drink lots of water and eat fruit.
The trick is to eat a lot, but in smaller portions throughout the day.
It’s better to eat 5 small meals a day than 2 heavy meals.
One of the problems with diets is that when you’re operating at a calorie deficit your body slows down your metabolism. After an initial period of losing a lot of weight you start getting diminishing returns. Pay attention to what your body wants, but don’t indulge yourself. Watch out for sugar and salt, because they can cause cravings. Protean is good because it helps regulate your blood sugar, but don’t get too much, because excess protean is hard on your kidneys. Also, if you’re operating at a calorie deficit your body will just burn the protean for energy. People often report impressive gains at the beginning of a diet, but that is mostly water, or muscle. A pound of body fat consists of 3,500 calories. To lose ten pounds of fat you would have to have a calorie deficit of 35,000 calories. So if you’re making impressive weight losses at first, it will be mostly water. That’s okay, because the weight will probably stay off. Your body doesn’t want the water back, and water is mostly bulk. In sports where weight is a factor a lot of guys lose weight by dehydrating. That didn’t work for me, because if I lost more than about seven or eight pounds by dehydrating I just couldn’t perform on the mat. It was probably because I was consuming so much protean. One time I was watching a story about this guy in ultimate fighting who was dehydrating a LOT of weight to get down to the weight he had to get down to. They were doing all kinds of things I had never seen before. One thing they did was smear this waxy substance all over him to open up his pores. If I was a wrestling coach, I think I would try to discourage excessive dieting, because the real reason wrestlers do that is because they’re ducking tougher competition. They see some stud all muscled up, and they think, “I don’t want no part of him”. I’d try to get them to go ahead and go up against that stallion.
I don’t worry about dieting and counting calories anymore. I had a weight obsession throughout most of my life and the eating disorders associated with it.
I have come to terms that this is just me now, over fifty, fat and frumpy - but I like it this way. I hope you learn to accept and love yourself just the way you are.
I don’t have an answer for you. I became obsessed and ended up having to call the eating disorder hotline for recommendations to ED specialized nutritionists in my area. Maybe your insurance would cover something like that for you. My insurance didn’t cover it, so I just gave up calorie counting and learned to love myself at a higher weight.
I forgot to mention that I do not think you are overweight at all judging by your photos.
To celebrate these new found curves I threw away all of my previous size 10 clothing in the hope of one day squeezing back into them and replaced them with a size 14 fashionable bigger girls style that I can wear with confidence and feel good in.
I am not sure what my sizes would be in the US or where you are Nova.
I’m not sure if you can count calories without becoming obsessed. Sorry.
I just very loosely count calories for a general idea of the amount I should be eating to lose weight, and if I go over my daily goal by any amount, I just let it be and move on. I’m prone to eating disorders too so I definitely understand why you’d want to approach this subject with caution. I wish you luck.
To be honest, I would be perfectly happy where I am now if not for health complications recently arising due to my higher weight. 
It sucks.
I too wonder how to count calories without becoming obsessed. Doing this is what triggered anorexia for me when I was eighteen.
I become obsessed quickly. As I’m losing weight now I worry I wont be able to stop once I get to a healthy weight, as I’ve had anorexia before and its not pretty
I also find calorie counting difficult. it just feels like way too much effort and makes me uncomfortable keeping track like that every frkkn day.
but cool for those whom it works for 
I count calories, it’s not to bad. I like to know how much im eating.
I just don’t get obsessed with it, just my personality I guess.
im not sure I can really answer your question, one tip is to eat whole foods, which typically have fewer calories. 1/2 cup of rice will provide a lot of energy and is only 300 calories, if you want to make it a complete protein you can throw in a serving of beans to make it 400 or so calories.
if you don’t want to rely on carbs, although I think you should get at least some, maybe a fruit smoothie or oatmeal for breakfast. you can fill up on meat, and veggies later in the day. with satiating snacks like high fat nuts to curb your hunger.
calorie counting along with exercise is what works for me when trying to lose weight. also I’ve found it’s best to eat 3-5 smaller meals a day, not to slow down your metabolism. also calorie counting is good when im trying to gain weight, so I can put on lean muscle slowly without expanding my waistline.
get some measuring cups if your going to do it. and read nutrition labels. best wishes, hope this helped, but im still not sure if I’ve addressed your concerns about it becoming an obsession and leading to an eating disorder.
I appreciate the tips 
My biggest worry aside from getting an eating disorder is stabilizing my bloodsugar. I realise I don’t have healthy ways of doing it now, but it’s important to me that a potential diet is to keep my bloodsugar stable.
o well if your wanting to avoid blood sugar spikes, you might have to take it easy on the carbs.
and instead go with high fat, and moderate amounts of protein,
with carb sources coming mostly from veggies,
, or beans, possibly berries, but not sure about the carb sources really.
thankfully I don’t have to worry about bloodsugar, at least not yet.
I counted calories for a week or so, just to get an idea of what 2000 calories looks like and how hungry I felt on it. Then I just eat roughly that much. On amisulparide I had to keep myself a little hungry or else I would put on weight.
I changed to Abilify and my appetite went down, now I can eat like normally and not feel hungry all the time. I have been obsessed with the scales though. But I’ve learnt that they are pretty random and not take much notice of fluctuations - it’s just so I notice if I’m putting on substantial weight. I have put on heaps of weight in the past and not been aware of it.
If you’ve got an idea what your calorie goal looks like in portion sizes, then there is no need to constantly count them - your right, it can lead to obsession, go easy on yourself.
This has really changed a lot since you were young. Most guys my age try to keep a reasonably low body fat percentage to look attractive. Men spend a lot more time on their looks these days. Eating disorders, such as muscle dysmorphia and orthorexia, are also becoming a lot more common in men.