especially if they are both single and attractive? i might think if they are compatible enough to be friends, they might also be just as good or better as a couple.
what about guys? can they be just friends with someone they are strongly sexually or romantically attracted to, if they are both single? i might think a guy has to keep his cool if he’s that attracted, and might need to keep a distance. maybe i dont give guys enough credit.
it seems like it’s all possible to be just friends, but i doubt that’s the norm though. ya think?
Two of my best friends are women. One of them I asked out on a date over a decade ago, but she explained she was not heterosexual, but asked if I wanted to meet anyway. And so we became friends.I admit it took a little time before I accepted that although I liked her very much, nothing could happen between us. But we have a great chemistry and she’s fun to hang out with, so yes it’s definitly possible to be just friends if one has the right thoughts about the relationship.
When I was younger I slept with all my friends at least once. I definitely had a hard time being just friends. I slept with even my gay friends. I don’t know I just guess I had a natural curiosity or something. Now I don’t feel sexually towards people, I feel motherly towards them, so of course I don’t sleep with them.
If the other one is married to your brother, or a husband who is much richer and/or stronger than you than it’s easy. It’s also easy if she’s pregnant or has kids. Otherwise it’s easier if you don’t find yourself attracted to them.
I have loads of friends of all genders. I did even when presenting as female. Most guys always assumed I was gay, so I fell into the category of “not a romantic interest”
I think guys and girls can just be friends in a scenario where they grew up together. That is really the only case where I have seen successful, long lasting straight guy girl friendships.
The other scenario I see it in is when you have mixed gender friend groups. However often people who start out as “friends” in these groups end up dating.
However my boyfriend is in an online friend group with guys and girls and they don’t date each other. Most likely because most of them already have partners and in reality they don’t live near each other so a relationship wouldn’t go anywhere anyways.
I think if both are straight, it’s really hard to keep it platonic. I think one will end up falling for the other or both will or whatever. My best friend has guy “friends” that she says are platonic and sometimes she has sex with them. To me, that’s not platonic
I was best friends with a male for 20 years till he died. We loved each other as friends and were close but we never had sex or became a couple. Now he’s dead I don’t think I’ll ever find another true celibate friendship like him. He s been dead 3 years and I still miss him every day. I’m glad and relieved we never had sex. I didn’t want sex. I prefer just close friends.