maybe caring too much can trigger it
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In my case it certainly added fuel to the fire.
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I’ve always cared too much about what people think. I try hard to be rational and not let it get the better of me. But I think the same thing about caring too much that I do about being generally weird. I look at people who only care about themselves and I think I’d rather be the way I am than be like that.
I think they can play off each other. As long as you are doing what you think is the best for you then try not to worry about what others think. You can’t control other people or what they think. You can center on yourself and being the best person that you can be.
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I also believe getting overly stressed about what others think can add fuel to the fire. There have been times I’ve spiraled out due to not wanting to seem ill to my family.
If I could just pull myself together. If I could just snap out of it… The they wouldn’t have to know I’m having a bad day…
Then I try to hard and they know something is up anyway. My sis says it’s my Basil Fawlty vibe. I’m trying SO hard to make it seem like all is OK that it’s obviously NOT OK.
(Don’t mention the war… I accidently did, and I think I got away with it) If you that episode… you know how obvious the character was in that scene.
I think so for sure. Just try to focus on the present moment, breathe and feel this moment. That should help. <3
Yes. It can drive you crazy.
Myself, I am far too concerned what others think. It leaves me socially crippled. I must feel unconditionally accepted to feel at ease and be myself for the most part too. Otherwise I cannot truly be myself, it is impossible. Therefor I am very difficult to get to know and I have a deep disdain for judgmental types of people.
Posting on forums helps though.
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yes, its called mentalistic cognition and is what people with psychotic disorders have an unhealthy amount of. The opposite is mechanistic cognition, what people with aspergers and autism have an abnormal level of.
Basically our brains pay so much attention to what other people are thinking that we go crazy and think about nothing else. People with austism or aspergers think so much about how things work that they are unaware of what others are thinking or feeling at times. I know two men with high functioning autism, well one had aspergers but its quite similar. They are successful and do well for themselves but come off as a little different in their conversations.
The man with high functioning autism is actually my sister’s fiance, he works in IT and is very bright, he tends to talk about facts exclusively, which I dont mind, he has great logic. My friend with aspergers is quite bright, goes to a good university, and has no filter in his behavior. He made identical ACT scores as I did, he is bright, and he does things like make lots of sex jokes and raid my fridge. I don’t mind, he is a good guy and I am schizophrenic so who am I to be talking?
I quit caring about what strangers think, I care about what attractive men who I want to date think.
I have been having angst and insecurity over being single lately. I had friends with benefits and was dating different people last year, so I sort of had that problem solved, now I am single again and talking to three different guys but not in any sort of committed relationship. I do start to worry about what they think, especially about when I break the news about my diagnosis.
It’s best to take care of yourself first. I had a six hour talk with a high functioning paranoid schizophrenic friend of mine a couple weeks ago, and he told me that I need to do the best I can do for myself at my age. He is 29, I am 21. He said to forget about boyfriends, what people think, sex, just forget it if it gets in the way of my long term goals like a graduate degree and mental stability. I have been stable for a year and have been doing very well in school, he told me that if I make my dream of having a graduate degree in psychology come true, I will have beaten this illness to death and be free to pursue whatever the **** I want. He aso told me “I know you. You do whatever the **** you want to, if you really want it.” I think he is right, I have done some pretty awesome things, academically and athletically. I was a competitive powerlifter for a while and did some insane lifts, I lifted over three times my weight six times.
But yeah, its actually a thing, its called mentalistic cognition and we paranoid schizophrenics have way too much of it. It lies on a continuum, we are on the far end.
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Bumping this topic.
Caring too much about what other people think causes stress, and stress triggers psychosis (including paranoia).
This is part of what CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) for psychosis covers. I recommend you learn about it.
Here is a good start:
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Yeah it can. I’m like that now but i wasn’t while i was in high school, not til this girl i was friends with got me thinking of my reputation. Hell by then, there wasn’t no way i was going to have a good reputation cause it was pretty much demolished. I should have stayed the way i was & kept my go to hell attitude.
I would say yes. In worrying too much what others think it can certainly cause social anxiety, and it can be a short step from " I’m no good/ a freak" to " they know that and dislike/hate me" . It’s very easy then to see others, especially strangers, in a negative/suspicious light.
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What is your solution for caring too much? What are your ways to not care what others think?