So you guys care about what other people think of you? When do you yourself draw the line and say I’m ok with who I am ? When should others opinion actually become your reality? Something I’ve been thinking about the last couple of days … I feel like caring what others think too much is just paralyzing…bI just want to be my self but I also don’t want to be an ■■■■■■■ lol
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Years ago i was less confident and i cared a lot about what others thought about me, i took everything seriously. But not anymore, idk what changed
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When did it start to change for you? Yea that’s what I’m starting to think … I take stuff to personal lol
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I care about what others think of me too much and it has held me back a lot in life. When I have tried to not care or tried to stand up for myself, I am told I am crazy, or I become the butt of a joke etc. I have decided to work on myself and my self esteem.
It really shouldn’t matter what others think . just try to be the best you can… be kind but don’t let people take advantage.
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Idk i think around the time i got sz.
Not so much 151515
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It is hard because like you I feel like an ■■■■■■■ when I become defensive lol I also like you try to be kind dispite my own flawed humanity but it’s tough.
It is tough, I agree. I think it has a lot to do with how we see ourselves based on the constant judgement of others throughout our life, especially in the younger years and it kind of sticks with us. Then some people in society reinforce it… so it makes it hard to break from.
It’s possible though… at some point you just have to say f it .
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Aside from my wife, kid, and employer… Nope. Don’t care.
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It doesn’t matter who im with, stranger, foe, or friend/family.
Theres always a certain level of considerstion i give to others because i expect that it will be returned within reason
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I care what others think but only to a certain degree
Like @anon54334749 said, I would like to take other people’s feelings into regard but also… My own feelings.
I want to be me how my heart tells me I am, but I also have to balance that with consideration for others and respect for everyone’s self autonomy
It’s not easy to be really myself in front of some ppl because I’m shy, in other words it doesn’t feel good to be mocked when you are being your true self or being seriously misunderstood when you are being your true self or being micromanaged when you are being your true self. That’s why I have to adapt to the ppl around me in some respect but not at the expense of being untrue to myself
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No I don’t. You’re a prisoner when you care what others think.
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I do care what others think to an extent. I have this thought where other people can here my thoughts (I don’t obsess over it like I used to thank heavens for antipsychotics) so it’s difficult for me in life getting around.
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i think its all about balance. If you dont care about what people think, you become a bulldozer. If you think too much about what think, you become a doormat. I’m not sure about your case but one cause could be simply thinking too much. The remedy to which I think is simply stop ruminating and start being more active. As in, when you find yourself sitting around thinking about this stuff just get up and get busy.
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I suffer.similarly
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I don’t like the company of judgmental people. I try to surround myself with kind people who look at me with a kinder eye.
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The older I get, the less I care what others think about me. I do care what some people think to some extent, but thats mostly people who are close to me.
The way I sometimes look at it is : In 20 years(probably less), I’ll likely be dead. In 90 years, everyone that has ever known me is likely to be dead. Why care what a bunch of dead people think? 
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I like to look at the big picture .
I’m so uplifting. 
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Man… I hope to develop some prospective soon. I’ve got tunnel vision ATM lol
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My voices are concerned about the thoughts others have about them. No kidding. At one point it seemed that’s all they cared about.
That’s crazy man… minds within minds 
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