Sometimes I feel like my family is disappointed in me
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I don’t think my family is disappointed in me
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My family is disappointed about the way I look at myself, seeing myself in a self abusive way, rather than the way they see me as a lovable and worthy person.
I am working on this in my recovery group - being able to see myself through other people’s eyes, and see that I have been the one who has been mistaken all this time. It’s new. I have several friends now who show me every day that I have been looking at myself incorrectly. I will never be egotistical, but I am learning how love and not hate myself.
They are not disappointed about my sza at all. Or embarrassed. Which I find amazing.
Caveat is that I only have three family members - my husband, and my mother and sister. The rest of them are either dead, or I alienated them many years ago when being confrontational about my abusive father. But still, three good and supportive family members is a blessing!
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My parents perspectives are so skewed there is no way for me to take their opinions of me seriously.
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Family is not disappointed in me. Usually im just mis understood. They cant get there head around the fact that im not always able to do certain things normies do lol
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My dad is disappointed in me. He’s very old school/tough guy/ hard laborer type. He doesn’t believe in disability insurance, unless you’re a complete invalid.
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I think they’re disappointed for me. I might have been able to do more if I never had schizophrenia and they probably feel bad I never had the chance. They’ve told me many times that I’ve done great considering the cards I was dealt.
I think my dad was satisfied I’ve accomplished what I’ve accomplished and he knows how bad off I was in the beginning so he I think appreciated that I’ve done what I’ve done. I think my family thinks I’m a good person and that is good enough for them and I’ve never seen any indication that they’re disappointed in me.
That said, when I first got sick I was severely ill and couldn’t work for three years and I needed a lot of help and support from my family. I’m sure if my dad had a choice he would have wanted a son who was independent, got married and lived happily ever after but I think when he realized that was not going to happen a little disappointment had to have at least crossed his mind.
But he realized how sick I was and that it was not my fault and I just got unlucky to be schizophrenic and that I was struggling and he never got mad or treated me badly for having schizophrenia. Whatever he thought privately, at least publicly he was proud of me.
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Theyve said so before but they dont let on anymore. Theyre old and wanting to be at peace with the world.
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Before i told them i suffered from a serious psychiatric illness, they were disappointed, but now where they know im living with an illness that demands a constant battle, they accept and understand that every day is a burden for me and happiness only occur in sparks (that makes it worthwile living)
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I don’t care if they are.
They should have treated me better.
The sh it I went through is overwhelming stuff for me and agony and abuse.
They think they are superior to me and that I’m a loser etc
My real family is proud of me.thats what i believe.
I don’t believe my family are my real family as such.
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What family I have left (a sister) thinks I’m talented and we leave it at that. I don’t know how she explained me to her daughters when they were young and I was so sick. I should ask her some time.
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I think different family members feel different things. I think they are all disappointed I chose a different religion from them.
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I don’t think they’re disappointed in me, but I think they are disappointed that the illness took so much away from me, like a future as a doctor and a family. They were really proud of me when I got my master’s degree but we’re unhappy when I still couldn’t work after I got it. Overall, tho, my family supports me and my decisions.
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Not really. They were. But ever since i chose to study, they think im doing something at least. I dont know how much they appreciate that i cannot hold a job
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Probably but I don’t care anymore
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My family believes im not mentally ill, and that i just played the system
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My immediate family are the only ones left
I think they’re ok with what I am doing
Never have asked them for a penny since I became independent which is a big deal
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I’m lucky my family have been very supportive and encouraging.
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I worry about this too. I think they are even though they won’t say it to my face probably.
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They used to, they thought I was just lazy as I stopped working.
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