Confidence can be very important to a person,high confidence come with high energy,more social ability and better functioning while low confidence brings a lot of negative effect like feeling not enough and low energy.Are you a person with high confidence or low confidence usually?
Usually low confidence for me. Think I’m ugly and slow. I was told stuff like that as a child so its practically branded on my brain…even after years of therapy. Not really sure what to do about it.
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I don’t know who tell you are ugly and slow but your not.i hope the person who said that will get retributed
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Thanks. Unfortunately it was the “adults” in my life. But I am working on support system to enable some distance. Accomplishments big or small help me keep perspective. My mom gets mean sometimes. I’m still recovering from last Thursday when she cruelly ripped into me and then started pointing out wrinkles on my face.
What are you generally?
I am low confidence,i used to work very hard but it didnt help with my mental health,now I am just tired.I am always no confident,it’s been like this for a decade
It never strikes me odd when without falter some humans attack the sick and poor. Its kids funny we walk around and they crawl like some sort of zombie thing 
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And you are just a kid now.
Don’t get too jaded or you may end up like one of us.
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Thanks @petester am still trying
@lagoonlovely,maybe I am just crazy
I would be fine if I don’t behave childishly sometimes…
@whoami did give me some suggestion which is nice and thanks @petester,I hope I don’t end up too lonely
We all do dear. Even sane people. Just part of being human.
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Trust me bro.
Don’t do it… Loneliness sucks grab you one while you can.
im pretty confident but anxiety gets me at times.
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This changes for me a lot.
I’ve always been annoyed by confident people. On the other hand I’m jealous that they either have no self consciousness, they can lie to themselves/have ego, or just hide it all really well. It makes me feel good, like I’m a beacon, to express a different kind of persona than these schmucks.
Other time I don’t give a ■■■■about anything.
Really it’s whatever I’m allowed to get away with before someone reminds me im slightly gayer then erryone else. Then I just frustrated with life. They always slip it in there when I’m doing my best. Then it’s like well what’s the ■■■■■■■point.
Yeah I hate confident people. Unfortunately it’s exactly how you need to be in this world. Stupid hetero schmucks.
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Jealousy and too self conscious is me,sometimes I can’t control being jealous or self conscious…I really hope I can be less of both,it seems possible still
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It’s a tough fight. I’ve noticed a positive trend though inside the self. The same battle but it gets easier…
I just got drunk earlier and came unravelled a bit. Rather vent on here than internalize it.
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Low for a while
I grew up with low confidence and it was encourage and ingrained into my skull to be that way starting with my parents, then the nuns at school, then the people that I encountered in my early adult life. By now it has become habit, this is something that my therapist is trying to work on with me, but at 49 I think change is very slow if not extinct.
This former-fat-kid, still-too-big adult, can walk through any barrage of insults and now crazy talk and still not respond. My confidence will slip a bit as I avoid more and more social stuff, so introvert is a useful too…I’m still have a lot of social problems after being thrown out of a church 5+ years ago. Seems like the wrong people just keep joining my former networking group and business stuff. After enough rude comments and a few of my previous friendlies joining in, trying to run any business locally where I’m currently living will bankrupt me.