Im socially anxious

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im awful at small talk, in truth im awful at keeping a conversation going

anyone got tips on small talk and how to keep the conversation going

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Keep up with the news and talk about that?

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I’m bad at talking to people too.

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I forget what I’m talking about and start rambling and none of it makes sense. Then I’m so embarrassed I stop talking altogether.

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I just ask questions. Simple or complex. Keep the other person talking to hide my lack of personality lol.

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lol. that made me laugh.

edit: Lofifunks comment, not the original poster.

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Listening properly is the key to communications and to being good socially. You get there asking questions…your not too far off the mark even with your self depreciation…It’s a good lesson.

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Be yourself. Don’t worry about what people might think about you. I am a super anxious person but if I just try to joke around and laugh I feel like “myself” again. The old me when I was in high school and stuff. Just joking with everyone and not taking things too serious. Laughter is honestly the best medicine besides APs, even better than klonopin I’ll tell you that.

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Doesn’t it depend on who you are talking to?

Some people have better chemistry?

I couldn’t chat with anyone ever but now I can chat a little but only with some people.

Some people I can’t stand to chat with including my own family sometimes.

I could chat with a lady I agisted of and it was lovely.she is so easy going and easy to talk to while others just aren’t n then it depends if they like you etc.

I felt so much hate from a woman who works at my local Coles.
I don’t know why she hates me but she hates me .
You don’t have to be psychic to feel those hate vibes.

I’m certainly not everyone’s cup of tea but why hate hate hate.

Now I find it difficult shopping at Coles because of her n a few others there.

Is it cause I do t work I think that’s why and maybe my peta beanie helps to hate me even more.ha ha ha ha

What can I do but I try to ignore their hateful vibes.

I was hated much worse in Sweden where everyone hated me😮.

I can chat with some people and then some others I can chat with only sometimes on rare occasion and others not at all.

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Show that you are paying attention. Ask follow up questions. If someone says “I miss my cat”, you can ask what the cat’s name is, what breed it is, how old it is, etc.
If someone asks you a question, reply in full sentences and not just yes or no or i don’t know.
And reflect part of the question back.
Example: “What are you having for dinner today?” and you are having spaghetti, instead of just saying ‘spaghetti’, say
“I am having spaghetti for dinner”, and maybe throw in a “what are you having?” to keep the conversation going.

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I usually make a comment about whatever I see in the vicinity and build off that

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If you want to make small talk the weather is always a good topic.

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I would say to take an interest in the other person and try to engage on what they do or what they like. Sometimes at family gatherings I wanted to talk about my schizophrenia, but I think that would have been a big mistake.

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How ‘bout those Giants’?

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I am only good when talking about electronics, computers and technology, otherwise I just listen.

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