I changed my definition of success to finding peace with myself and the world. But I can’t even do that lol. If I could though, I think I’d be fine. I think perspective is important. There are things that are essential but beyond, that you need to learn to make the rest of life okay.
Like if you run into a former enemy from high school and he is a billionaire brain surgeon married to a supermodel, there’s no reason for you to feel bad. Key his car obviously. But don’t feel bad. Because even he can be unhappy if he doesn’t find some equanimity with things.
Personally, I’ve never wanted kids even before I became schizophrenic. I’ve never really understood the appeal.
I’m glad you are successful. But I am rather happy that for me, success now means just being okay with things. Sort of like if you can’t reach the bar you set for yourself, just lower the bar lol.
I did not want kids either for a long time. Now all my friend have kids except me. Feels weird.
I have a feeling I will regret not having kids but at the same time it does not feel ‘right’
I have been told a lot of time in my youth that I was a loser but I have proved that it was wrong since then.
You don’t recover from a 12 years of sickness and then get back your professional life if you are a loser.
Also, I don’t believe everyone of you who said you are a loser. You are all fighters who fight to live your life despite having a mental illness. In my point of you, it makes of you a winner.
The thing is I think you can put enough in your life you don’t feel empty for not having kids. The idea you must have kids is forced on people by society. And also, I think I heard that the biggest difference a person can make in decreasing his or her carbon footprint is not having kids. So sort of save the Earth, don’t be a baby cannon lol.
Are you worried about having kids while being schizophrenic? I don’t know but i’d say, that if you are pretty stable, if you can give a kid love and a decent home then that is much more important. Also, if you have a partner, he or she might be willing to go into it knowing he or she has to take up the slack when you can’t manage. I’m sure that many people on this site have kids and do an excellent job even considering their diagnosis. So you could to if you wanted.
Some days I win. Some days I lose. It’s a journey this schizophrenia and life. I’d be loath to say anyone who comes here is a loser. I always find everyone has some redeemable qualities…even people I don’t like much! I can still say there’s something about them that is admirable.
Chin up! Little victories. Small progress is still forward progress!
To the winners I suppose so but there are many levels of loserality. I think the only real losers are the ones in life who surround themselves only with fellow winners.
were not losers…were the few that understand…who missed out? us? or so called “them”. DR will give us this and that, and I respect that they help us…but they don’t dare to get into the most “ill” mind…
I am actually considered successful among my friends… I have too much alone time I guess without kids.