Are doctors controlling your life choices too?

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Doesn’t it seem they just want to rule your every decision…

  1. Having children… They want to make it very difficult. if impossible.

  2. Even tho your fine, giving back great reports of yourself, it wouldn’t matter if I was crapping gold, and the most happy person in the world, raising your medications to make you more sedated, what seems unlawfully!

  3. Forcing you meet with them for chats, when it suits them ofcourse, and they want to make your life even more complicated by interrupting you normal flow of happiness.

  4. twisting your words to sound worse on paper, and actually telling you ’ so your not feeling good’ - straight after I said i’m doing fantastic.

finally, they are a bunch of liars and controlling people, I think they are the controlling type you hear about in the movies, a horror movie to be serious here, and I think they are making me feel worse everytime I come out of that place I feel worse off, and dread going,

and furthermore to the point of this discussion,

DO THEY EVER LEAVE YOU ALONE!!!

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Some psychiatrists are bad, definitely. Some of them are egomaniacs and control freaks who don’t really care about others. Some of them are just in it for incentives / personal gain. They can be more damaging than helpful to patients.

Some psychiatrists are genuinely good people, though, who will listen and want your whole quality of life to be good. Are you able to try a different psychiatrist?

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I think I teach my doctors to respect my autonomy.

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I had thought of sending this letter of complaint, but it won’t do any good,

Complaining was not my first thought of action after this incident, I did think I could give this type of experience another try, but since, it happened back on the 27th of (blank) @ around 9.45am I have been feeling slight panic thinking about going back, and have been dwelling on the situation I was put in, where I did feel quite threatened by a doctors forceful nature. In the past I would have accepted the health care given at the time, but have grown to understand that it lives up to better, I should not let this behaviour be ignored knowing the good standards the health system in this country obtains currently.

When I received my normal mental health outpatients appointment letter by mail, stating I would be seeing my usual Dr (blank) on the date allocated, what followed was thankfully a short meeting lasting of which I could only suffer what felt like ten minutes with an women, who was which I will explain, seemingly untrained, I had to excuse myself and leave baffled…

I don’t mean to make a big fuss about my personal space being violated, but to explain further what unfolded…

Immediately she briefly ran though what she must have believed was a risk assessment, which contained questions I felt unnecessary, like, ‘are you enjoying being newly married, I hope your taking birth control’ and ‘tell me about your voices’ she refused to listen to my views on my newly prescribed medicine Risperidone of which I thankfully do agree very well on the new dose, although this was worryingly not interesting her, as I tried to keep her in the picture I talked about my motivation for daily tasks and excursions when she became very forceful asking about my past history of auditory hallucinations (after only two minutes of meeting with me), she must have read the word ‘voices’ somewhere in my file, while she jumped on it and quote said ‘if you don’t tell me about the voices we can’t make you better’… I disagree with her judgement that day and the relevance of the position she holds in the establishment, I always cope with my triggers and I am performing even better than ever on the newly introduced tablet if she had listened…

I have successfully gone through the voluntary course of CBT last year and have been prescribed a medicine which has been sufficient for a good number of years now for my condition and I have total control of my situation and am very happy because of this, so as I came to the said biannual appointment hoping to confirm the help Risperidone has given me to solve a slight side affect from my last medication, I was understandably disappointed, I can usually ignore passive remarks on my character which are not true but what blew me away was her assuming I was incapable of having a perfectly good support network to perform future childcare duty’s, if I decide that is my personal choice, while it’s only a woman’s natural right, my own G.P was introducing me and my husband to the promise that ivf can give couples this last year, if I feel ready be it next month or a year down the line, if I become pregnant, I would not want my health care plan to be in the control of this women who has portrayed only insulting behaviour towards me, by completely not understanding my situation and acting immature that day.

I might after this whole experience find it necessary to bring along my husband to future meetings if it continues unresolved, which is not convenient, my confidence in the mental health department at (blank)hospital has been knocked… and hope you will take note.

As the mentioned substitute doctor of trust allocated to my case that day must have been a junior doctor and out of her depth I think my appointments should be constructed with better thought next time and I will discontinue my meetings with this particular person due to her lack in the knowledge in code of conduct.

Hopefully the department will take into consideration I wish to discontinue the meetings with this particular person obviously and that is all, if a manager of the department wishes to discuss this matter with myself do feel free to reply to this email address below, many thanks

Regards,

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Yeah I agree with you that some of her comments were unprofessional. As far as saying that she hopes you are on birth control and so on. That’s not a fair thing to say if someone doesn’t even know you very well or what progress you have been making, it reeks of a eugenics mindset. It’s understandable for a professional to have concern about whether or not a patient is ready for parenthood, but those concerns are best addressed by asking questions and listening. Sorry you had to deal with someone who wasn’t very socially graceful. Sounds like you handled it in a very mature manner.

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I don’t think they like people of my type, the type that says ‘I don’t need their pretty college graduated ideas, they haven’t lived thru my life, and seen how much progress I have accomplished, to get treated like an idiot’

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Speaking generally and only for myself, the vast array of life choices I have now are thanks to my doctors and the meds they prescribed. Also, I would not be doing as well as I am if I had not made the decision to be completely honest with my doctors about everything, including the stuff they don’t approve of (that ended with them talking me out of using weight lifting supplements I really liked, although they probably did contain something close to 'roids).

The worst patches of my recovery are always those where I stray from my doctor’s advice and play with my meds. It has never worked out well for me. So, for me, the shortest path to more life choices is through my doctor’s treatment plan.

Pixel.

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What you say makes sense, but did you read the details of what she experienced? Because it’s not like that. This wasn’t a therapist or doctor who had established a therapeutic relationship or alliance with her. And she wasn’t arguing about taking her medication, in fact she was trying to explain that the medication was working and that she wanted to keep taking it. But the professional she was seeing copped an attitude of talking down to IHaveAVoice.

I know many of us with mental illness struggle to stick to medications and so on, for lots of reasons, but there are some cases where professionals have attitudes that harmful instead of helpful, and can make people feel defensive instead of open. I think this was a legit case of that.

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True, Turnip we get bad to know the good x

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Hi

Funny enough I have ended up on the exact same medication they started me on seven years ago, I have been through over 8 different meds near the beginning, to being stuck on Abilify 30mg, which gave me a bad side affect for over 5 years, to be brought back to the first one I ever tried Risperidone 4mg…

Thankfully I only have to see them forcibly twice a year… because there seems to be a lot of twisted people in the profession, and I agree some only get in this job to get some pleasure out of their own lives.

They saved your life, yes maybe true in some aspect. But most of them have caused me is grief… anyway… thanks for your views

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I was taking resperidone and was suicidal and had myself admitted to the hospital.

A psychiatrist there asked me what meds I felt comfortable taking and he prescribed them at the dosage I felt comfortable with.

I am still on these meds, at a higher dose now for the antipsychotic.

I just started seeing a new psychiatrist since my old one retired who I have seen for 20years and he is totally supportive and respectfull of my old psychiatrist because he works my old psychiatrists clinic.

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I did, but that’s one side of the story. I don’t know the other and find it difficult to comment as a result. That’s why I shared my experience and stopped at that.

Pixel.

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pixel you don’t have a clue as you have admitted… the women was sniggering and smiling/laughing behind her hand at me, there okay you got the juicy info, happy… don’t comment if your going to be so self-involved

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people like you pixel rile me up actually, your not happy till you’ve twisted the whole situation around in your own favour…

have a little heart, if that even possible… I am not going to blatantly go into details of how this ‘women’ abused her position as a doctor, not any more than I don’t believe a thing that comes out of your mouth either.

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Many of us with SZ rely on having a positive and trusting relationship with our doctors. I was just sharing the positive experience I had so that users of the forums are seeing a balance. I’m sorry your experience wasn’t wonderful, definitely exercise your option to choose another physician.

Peace.

Pixel.

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Moved this to the Diagnosed area where it is more on topic.

Pixel.
(Wearing moderator hat)

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so pixel basically what your saying by this ‘seeing a balance’ means your making the conversation seem a lot more user friendly, well sorry if the truth hurts… you can’t polish the facts… to make them all have a positive outcome, this is a serious experience I didn’t intend to have covered up…

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Calm down. This is a public discussion board. Everyone is welcome to share their experience on someone else’s post so long as they are not being rude or abusive. You posted about having a negative experience, someone else gave an example of a positive experience. That’s just how the community works. No need to pick a fight.

Cheers.

Pixel.

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heated debate my friend, heated debate :slight_smile:

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Totally didn’t mean to get off on the wrong foot with you. I originally had doctors tell me that I wasn’t ever going to improve, have a career, have a family, so I totally get that. But that was right at the outset of my illness when I was in horrible shape and I guess I can’t blame doctors for viewing me that way. I was lucky enough to be surrounded by friends in a 12 Step Program who pushed me towards recovery, and also that I eventually found doctors who supported my goals.

Over two decades later, I’ve done all of the things I was told I wouldn’t be able to do. Guess I made my own choices after all.

Pixel.

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