Im thinking of moving out to gain a sense of independence but im a bit worried to move in with other people as i seem to rub people up the wrong way. I dont do it intentionally also i am considering cost too
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I couldn’t live with roommates.
I need my space
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Fair enough i live with parents at the moment but want a sense of independence
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I live on my own but i am in the same
neighborhood with my parents.
I control how much intimacy i will allow.
So i can stay in my place alone,
or i can go to my mother’s, eat, drink coffee etc.
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Alone>roomies>parents
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I don’t suggest living with roomies, ever, for any reason.
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Roommates are a mixed bag.
I highly recommend not living with anyone who is your friend.
Gods forbid, best friend.
It’ll end with no friends and maybe some ■■■■■ getting punched.
I don’t know, never happened to me.
Haha.
Anyway,
My best roommate was one I rarely saw, paid rent, was clean and we barely every even had a conversation.
She was a prostitute that worked a certain fetish.
I didn’t know this when she became my roommate,
And I’ll be real, took longer than it should have for me to catch on.
But she was the best roommate I ever had.
So,
Probably no roommates would be best.
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I agree with @Charles_Foster - never live with a friend, much less a best friend.
I did that in university, and we lasted seven months before I had to move out and our friendship blew up permanently.
It was a one bedroom, and she was constantly having sex with her boyfriend on the family room sofa bed. I was always either out, or trapped in the bedroom.
Awful. Never again.
My husband has two degenerative illnesses, and I am incapable of living independently thanks to sza. I will be living with my mom or sister for life. I’ve accepted that because I need stability.
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This is pretty close to what happened to me and my best friend’s roommate situation.
Except it wasn’t her boyfriend, it was just this super hot guy from campus.
He was clearly using her.
I heard conversations where he talked about her to other guys,
Encouraging them to try to sleep with her because she was pretty much down for anything.
Total disrespect.
I told her he was using her and she flipped.
Next time she saw him she told him what I’d said,
And he straight told her he was using her for sex.
And for a specific sex act.
Additionally he had a girlfriend back home.
She continued to sleep with him.
Tensions got high and the friend and I were getting more and more hostile towards each other.
The straw that broke the camel’s back, as people are so fond of saying,
Was one night this hot guy brought over a framed sketch drawing of his.
It was a dinosaur attacking a city.
Actually pretty nice, I didn’t know he could draw like that.
He gave it to me and said he knew I liked dinosaur stuff.
All over.
Ended in a physical altercation and I made her leave.
She stole my cell phone, all my make up, some clothes and pulled our landline off the wall.
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…this girl sounds talented
And her as well
Believe me,
No talent involved.
Just a lack of self respect.
Wait, are you talking about my friend or the prostitute?
Because I actually think the prostitute had a decent gig going.
Paid for her college.
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They both sound cool to me. I feel bad for the girl who sounds like she was putting out lol
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Yeah,
The prostitute was a solid roommate.
And she made like insane amounts of money.
The friend was just an idiot.
I cannot express how hot the guy was.
And he was like the king of our campus.
She thought sleeping with him would gain her some status.
Instead, he just went around telling all the guys what she does.
She didn’t seem to understand that.
AND,
At a party,
She got drunk and asked how hot he thought she was on a scale of 1-10.
Without hesitation, he said 4.
And she was real cute.
Still followed him around and slept with him.
I had second hand humiliation.
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If you can avoid roommates then I highly suggest avoiding them. I would really consider if you can realistically maintain a household and your daily life, including bills, without the help of someone else atm.
If you can, awesome. Start looking for places in your budget. If not though, consider what you can do to prepare to move out. Whether that’s saving up money, taking on more responsibility at home, or asking family what they think you can work on before moving out. Those are just some ideas. Do whatever works best for you. Anyway, good luck!
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I lived for years with different roommates starting in my 20’s. I didn’t have a choice at the time; I couldn’t live on my own and my parents were in the background encouraging me to live in supported housing because I couldn’t live with them. So from 1984-1990 I lived with anywhere’s from 1 to 3 roommates. I accepted it, I didn’t question it at the time, I was still relatively new to the mental health system and I got put in houses or apartments with other mentally ill people. I
n those years, having roommates was not that bad. It was like having a built in friend at some places. It just wasn’t that bad. I got used to having roommates and like I said, I didn’t question it,. Then in 1990 I moved into a group home and stayed 5 years then moved out and started renting rooms in peoples houses for the following 20 years. I don’t know if that counts as having roommates.
Eventually I lived by myself and then after a crisis in 2015 I moved into another group home, stayed a year and half and moved into my current apartment. I don’t know if it’s my age or the fact that I lived by myself for 6 years or the fact that I lived in normal society for 20 years but for the 6 years I’ve lived in this apartment I’ve had 4 different roommates and the situation has always been bad. I got along with my my first roommate at first but then he started bugging me so bad I almost ended up in the hospital. My second roommate seemed OK any first but turned into a crazy lady and moved out within a month. My third roommate was the best. He stayed in his room all day. Which brings me to my current roommate.
This guy makes me want to live by myself so badly. He thinks he’s so much better than me and intimidates me physically. He acts like he’s this honest, straightforward, perfect guy who has nothing to hide so he is forever judging me and calling me out on any trip I might have or anything I might be hiding,. I don’t think what I do or act like is any of his business but it’s like living under a microscope. He’s just vry difficult to live with and has an attitude.
He’s smart, he’s got a masters and he’s traveled to different countries. He doesn’t drink or do drugs or he’s not in to anything shady or illegal but I kind of wish he was so he wouldn’t be so judgmental and hard on me. I hate him sometimes and think he’s an as*hole. I wish I lived by myself. I think it’s because I’m 62 and don’t have the energy or desire to deal with roommate problems. Having a roommate for company is good but the vast majority of the time it sucks.
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I completely agree with @Charles_Foster and @anon28552576
Do not be roommates with friends or best friends. I made this mistake and I became roommates with my best friend. It didn’t end well at all and it was very painful to me that I lost my best friend.
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You can meet some amazing like minded people, learn alot about yourself, have loads of fun and make some memories. Although there is a downside. Living on your own is okay but can get lonely. It’s your life live it how you want to.
Aw dude gross! What a horrible situation for you to be trapped in.
sexually hyperactive people kinda unsettle me
keep that crap private and soundproofed for pete’s sake
thank goodness I’ve never had to hear people doing the deed unless it was intentionally via porn or, super rarely, from having sex.
Oh gross. So gross. It’s like being next to gorilla cages lol.
I was always a dimly lit room, a couple times a week max kind of guy. I only got to be this type of guy for like 5 years before SZA struck but still lol.