This is a broad question I know - I have a hard time finding words to narrow the topic down. But maybe if anyone has thoughts on the subject matter, it will help me.
But in my situation, from my side of the relationship I am okay with it. I feel relationships are more than just sex. Love can still exist. And I am also bringing in how SZ can cause other dysfunction into a relationship besides sex, just a lot of other things.
Is it fair to my partner, from sex to enjoying a movie, that I can’t fulfill these simple things in a relationship?
I am very indifferent to sex. I enjoy it but I can easily go with or without it. In my last relationship we went 11 months without any kind of sexual interaction. It all depends on your partner. If they are okay with it then there’s nothing wrong with that. However if it is important to them in a relationship then I’d say it’s not really fair to either of you.
It is important to them, I know this. Because it’s me that has no interest, also its nothing to do with their attractiveness. It’s kind of gone unspoken like a taboo topic. And it eats me up.
Is it just the sex that’s important or is it specifically sex with you?
When I was going through some weirdness I offered to let my husband have an affair.
We decided to wait until I was ready to start having sex again.
But it’s an option.
I’m more indifferent to sex now than I ever have before. I don’t think I’d mind never having sex again. I definitely couldn’t be with someone who was hypersexual like I once was.
I think when there’s too much focus on sex in a relationship it takes away from everything else. The man I was seeing recently wanted sex all the time, and when we weren’t fcking, he was talking about fcking, and it ruined the time I did enjoy with him doing the mundane things.
I just can’t anymore. I can’t even care about it. I used to masturbate 3/day, now I might once every couple of weeks. It’s like a chore. I do it, I get it over with, and I move on. I don’t want the trouble of involving someone else, then have to worry about what they need or not getting what I need. I’d rather take care of it myself. It’s less of a hassle, and I know what I’m doing better than anyone else ever has.
I thought about this - and so many other scenarios… but maybe im selfish. Or afraid of being left for the affair.
Maybe he could just do it with sex workers.
There’s not too much of an attachment there.
You should really talk to your husband even if it’s difficult and see what he wants.
You guys can’t work on it together untill someone starts talking.
This describes the early phase of me losing interest in sex. @fractaled
It’s definitely new to me. Weird how drastically it changed. I’d even say I’m far less affectionate now too. I don’t want to be touched anymore. Hugs, holding hands, it all really creeps me out.
This is a lot to unpack. So uncomfortable to think about. @Charles_Foster
But I want him to be happy. I would consider it no matter how uncomfortable i am. This has gone on very long. I’m not even there on a sex worker - i know some people do. This is something i have so many hang ups on.
I used to have a good sex drive. On medication I have none even with lowering my dose. I still have sex with my husband as I know it’s important. We do it a couple of times a week which is what he wants. I still enjoy some of the sex, but it’s not the same. I don’t mind having sex because I know he needs it just like I used to.
It’s a scary conversation,
But you can do it.
Your relationship is worth the weirdness.
Well I been holding this secret for nearly a decade, its been a problem after my a few years after my diagnosis with SZ. It started slowly then to the point of zero.
This is my first time talking about it - maybe i mentioned it lightly in another topic someone else started but just wanted to know others thoughts on this.
We haven’t had sex in about a year. Before that it was a year, too. It isnt that we don’t want to now, theres reasons. No privacy. ED from his diabetic meds. Before this year it was the ED and me not wanting any due to meds.
Does it include hand jobs? Lol 
Sex is good every now and then but all the time is pretty repetitive. Id rather just rub one out and get on with the day 
I would say i love my partner to death - but i don’t know what it is about me - i was a normal person before on sex and affection - but this is how i feel also.
Hmmmmm was all this unspoken or discussed? Just curious.
We discussed my lack of drive. Then we have talked a little about tge ED. He wants me to being it up to the doctor because he’s too embarrassed.
I think the everyones POV on here has helped me a lot.
From what I read online about sexless relationships is that they shouldn’t exist and aren’t possible and will eventually fail, which I have been in fear of, hence complete avoidance of healthy discussion with my partner which could alleviate all some of this stress, guilt, fear and pain I feel over this.