Bless your heart
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Why? I donāt need to be blessed by you or anyone. Iām fine with this. Itās everyone else who might have a problem with it.
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I donāt have a relationship due to feeling like I would bring someone down with me bc of sz. I donāt like going out to eat for example and that would not be fair to someone else. I canāt be a normal person and do normal things, I personally think that would be unfair to someone else. Sex included some days I can on meds and some days I canāt.
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ābless your heartā is a very patronizing thing to say to anyone. I know because Iāve used it only ever in a patronizing way.
Saying that doesnāt do anything for me. Iām not religious, so Iām not endeared to the lacking sentiment.
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It did come across - like bad. Maybe not your intention. Like something to be sorry for.
I donāt want a sex drive myself, I just have posed the question I donāt want to hurt my partner. I donāt feel sorry that I donāt care about sex.
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I have always had a high libido. Still no sex would not be a dealbreaker. Love is what matters. Affection can be shown in so many ways: a shared laugh, a hug, a sweet word, cooking the dinner I love, listening to me carefully, whatever. If my partner wouldnt want sex, iād wish for us to talk about it. And no way Iād leave or want a sex worker. It is not that important.
And the other way round: i have high fear around sex and conservative values. I have told my currentā¦whatever he isā¦we have been chatting romantically for ages, but he lives abroad, so we havenāt met yet. I said I might not wish to have sex before marriage, and I wouldnt know what Iām capable of, even if I like it. His response: āi will live, there is more to life than sex.ā
None of us can know how your specific partner feels. Nor do you if you donāt ask. But there are many of us who like sex, but know that love is what really matters. Donāt be afraid. A careful talk can clear the sky, I think.
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I can either take or leave the sex. My current romantic interest does excite me though. Iām just happy with having a companion in life.
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Ive had hypersexual issues as well most of my years and thats how i tend to think about it these days. Its more of a bodily nuisance lol i just want to get the monkey off my back and on with my day 
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Iām ok with no sex but Iām not ok with no cuddles from hubby. The sex isnāt important to me but I help him by having it with him. For me itās not something satisfying. Iāve never climaxed in sex so I donāt get anything from it. I get a LOT from physical affection though, like hugs and cuddles. I canāt live without that.
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I can live without sex and masturbation.
I never think about sex.
My x and I went four months without sex.
We were pretty perfect as a family and partners and he may be my closest but we were not that sexually compatible.
He once said my vagina is too big and wet for him.
I forgave him for saying that.
My current boyfriend says my vagina is perfect.
We are really compatible sexually and we have sex once or twice a week but we only see each other weekends.
I was in a way happiest Iāve ever been with my x and it was perfect home and family and I wasnāt bothered going without sex.
I left him to become vegan and activist.
I was molested by my father and started having sex at age 13 with boys.
At 14 I had sex with a 38 year old when I was drunk.
I e been raped more times than I can remember and most sex I e had had been horrible.
I did not enjoy sex most of the time.it was awful and hurt and felt bad but thankfully I enjoy it now.
Iāve enjoyed it most with father of my son , with x and with current boyfriend I think.
My boyfriend masturbates weekdays when we are apart.
He seems to be a very sexual person.
If I nolonger wanted sex he could masturbate or we could just be friends.
I donāt want drama and jealousy.
I believe in free love and that you can have a open relationship.
You could have a wife and adore her but not be that sexually compatible with her and then have a girlfriend you are compatible with.
If you have that type of relationship you should all agree and give consent and you should be careful of diseases and be faithful in your arrangement so you donāt cause drama or diseases.
I had a boyfriend who wanted to be a swinger.
Into bad stuff.
I did not want to be a swinger.
He kept pushing me.
We never met another couple.
It was not a good relationship.
He got me to put naked video clip on swinger site though.darn hey.
He didnāt adore or love me or respect me or value me.
I donāt want to be a swinger.
I only want sex with my boyfriend.
Honestly I still love my x in sa as his girl in a way but thatās beyond and more than sex.
If you decide to never have sex again then maybe you should talk about it.
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I could go either way. Sex isnāt necessary to me or my partner. Itās nice when it happens but we often go several months without it. Mostly because my partner and I are both on meds that reduce libido. It works out for both of us.
That said we do spend a good chunk of time cuddled up together watching tv or YouTube. Lots of hugs too.
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I prefer sexless without the relationship at this point 
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Basically never. So I guess this needs to be addressed.
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That can happen in heterosexual relationships too where one wants to dominate the other.
Look at some religion where the women has to obey her husband.
I donāt want to be dominated by anyone.
I told my boyfriend I want us to be equal and not āones the boss the other obeysā.
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Thank you @Truemist8
Iām going to keep my dignity and not respond to that reply.
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I was replying to a poster who said gay relationships dominated by one partnerā¦.
I was saying can happen in heterosexual relationship too.
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Yes and I appreciate it your comment because it made me so mad. I heard comments like the original poster a thousand times before and did not want to fall for the bait.
So thank you for your support @Truemist8
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I can live without the sex if thatās how things work out. I would prefer to have a good friend for a lifetime rather than a one night stand.
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I was trying to be nice. I didnāt have bad intentions. I apologize it came across that way.
Wow. Youāre a piece of sht.
Iām glad I know now.
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