Because I sure as hell do and my friend that knows my mom texted me this morning that my moms been talking ■■■■ about me when I’ve done nothing but take her ■■■■ all my life, but ok
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Im sorry your going through this @Moon
My parents air on the side of hypocrisy
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I just heard the same thing about my mom a few weeks ago I confronted her and asked “how can you talk about your own daughter like that?” Her response you talk about me.
I blocked her and cut her off for my well being.
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I used to think my parents were narcissistic and I think that it’s part of their identity but they’ve managed it in some sense. The term narcissism gets thrown around a lot now and the truth may be much more complicated.
I’m not saying your parents aren’t narcissistic. I’m just saying that mine are really complicated lol
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My Mum thinks my Dad is a narcissist. I’m unsure but he definitely has some narcissist traits.
I’ve gone no contact for 2 years now and feel a lot better not dealing with him at all. Would highly suggest you doing the same. They lose all their impact when you don’t deal with them.
My Dad would only talk to me to moan about things I’d done wrong and didn’t show any care or consideration for me as a human being on a day to day basis. He never put any effort into learning about what my MH issues are and just sees it as “emotional problems”. The fact that I lived in his house in his eyes was some huge act of kindness that I was supposed to be grateful for regardless of how he treated me. I went a few years living with him and not really talking at all (literally weeks without saying anything). He can never take criticism and always deflects it to something else. Last week he had the same style of argument I used to have with him, but this time with my younger brother where a small comment blew up into “why don’t you get out the house if you have a problem living here” etc.
I remember hating my Dad as an infant, trying to tolerate him as a kid, and had a few years as as teen where I got along with him to some degree. But as an adult with MH issues we were never close and there was always some amount of friction. In 30 odd years I do not have many good memories of him.
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Idk everyone is a narcissist no? We all like attention, generally speaking. And no one has perfect self confidence
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No, not everyone is an narcissist. I know that term gets thrown around a lot but even my therapist agrees my parents are highly narcissistic. I’m not just saying they’re a little self centered or anything, it’s way more than that.
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I mean from your description of your parents, it sounds like they are disconnected from caring about other people’s feelings, right? So in that sense NPD.
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I used to be under the delusion that I had NPD when I was just out of college and I did struggle to some extent with selfishness but not on the level of a personality disorder and certainly not given that I was very worried about whether I was a good person or not or whether I was caring or whether I was emotionally available.
And the reality is that I was emotionally available. I just didn’t live responsibly and felt guilty because of it.
All I am saying is that NPD is a serious deficit in character. It’s rare, but using it as a quick definer of people who are flawed has become popular. Like the use of the term red flag for example.
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My dad either has NPD or BPD. He’s always been emotionally violent and abusive and he can get that way over anything but he also climbed pretty high in corporate America which I imagine would be almost impossible with BPD. He has a pretty grandiose image of himself but he also gets hurt when you tell him the truth. So idk. Maybe vulnerable narcissism with rage issues?
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@FreeLunch
Yeah my mom especially does not seem to care about my feelings or menta heath. She’s said some extremely messed up things to me, like calling me a pill popper for taking my antipsychotics in front of her. That’s even a minor thing compared to other things. She’s also violent. Lots of my therapy has centered around how unsafe I get as a kid
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I feel like my parents did a real subconscious number on me and while I feel like it, I don’t have the ability to diagnose them as NPD, they certainly didn’t understand how to raise a child properly. How to give care properly? How to establish in my own mind that I was an individual and not just a fixture in their world.
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This really sums it up.
They try now though, and I forgive them.
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Narcissists are not easily diagnosed imo since everybody have some narcissistic traits. Narcissists can fool even trained professionals.
I have a sibling who is a full blown narcissist according to me…she is totally in love with herself…I won’t elaborate.
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Yes this is a narcissistic way to raise a kid at least, my mom treats me as an extension of herself. Though I was never taught how to do anything for myself. My boyfriend is teaching me how to cook, and I’m 30
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Yes, that sounds like it
Someone once told me that they saw me as my mother’s doll 
I was supposed to magically raise myself. Probably would have if I had been orphaned. But instead I had to navigate her needs and emotions like it was my job.
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I have a brother who is a narcissist
The other night he started yelling at me in the car for absolutely no reason at all.
This is just one example of his behavior
He has an awful personality
It’s all about him
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Yeah my stepdad. Only one I’ve ever had in my life. I’m sure I’ve met a few others but none that have been in my life more than a day. My stepdad really stands out because of this, solution is to cut him out of my life entirely.
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I don’t even know how to begin describing my mom, tbh.
B!tchslap combo plate special?
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