I am writing here to ask if there is someone in here who cut the relationship with their parents?
And how it went?
I just did that today and I have tones of anxiety and I am really sad. But I still feel that is the best decision for me. No one will convince me not to do it. But how do I manage this with a broken heart from my boyfriend living me probably for the obvious reason that my parents were destroying my life.
Thanks a lot for support!
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Iits definitely hard at first. Ive cut mine out a couple times but i became so lonely i ended up going back. Theyre the only ones i talk to on the phone, and im always alone. So i dont know how to help. But ive heard pthers say it does get easier over time. Maybe keeping yourself busy would help.
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I am trying to get away from my parents since i am at least 15 years old. I already had the forms to move out but my parents confused me even more, so i couldn’t fill the forms in. My dad is dead, but my mother is not able to understand it. I broke up the communication cause she is 85 years old and she is still the same. I know its unacceptable not to get on with my parents and i need psychiatric help and medication. Its normal i trust. My parents are around 30 years older than me. Apparently that was around the time i picked up smoking.
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I stopped talking to my parents for a year or so. But my mom contacted me after that year and I spoke to her. She apologized for not being a good mom. She said of my siblings, she treated me the worst. That admission of guilt was enough for me to start working on a relationship with her again. Over the years, both my parents have changed drastically. We’re close now
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Thank you guys for sharing your stories with me 
I know is the best decision for me as well. She always told me I am stupid and I am not good at doing things. Besids the fact that I have schizophrenia my life was a hell with my mum in it.
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The way I finally left home was by packing up my car and driving off. My mom didn’t know where I was or if I was even alive for probably a year or two. When we did start talking again, it was only because I had spent years learning how to establish boundaries.
We have a good relationship now (over a decade later), and I credit that partially to me finally getting the courage to walk away. But the story could have gone much differently. There were many points where I almost died, or was almost murdered. There were many times where I gave my mom another chance, and she immediately tried to take advantage of me again. A key factor, besides dumb luck, was that both of us wanted to have a good relationship, deep down. We just never learned how. She did the work, and so did I. If only one of us had, or neither of us had, things would be different.
I also had to cut ties with my grandfather a few years back, because he was furious with me for taking in Starlet (and possibly for coming out as trans, but IDK). That one still hasn’t resolved. I reached out a few times, but he never responds. I have a feeling he will die before admitting that I exist. That sucks, but I feel at peace with how I handled things. It is hard to learn the balance.
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This helped me a lot, also. It is hard to forgive someone to their face when they don’t even acknowledge that they hurt you. It’s a lot easier when they own up to their mistakes and hold themselves accountable.
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I couldn’t agree more @Ninjastar
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My sister and I cut contact with our mom and stepdad. Only then, after a few years, did they realise they needed to change how they acted if they didn’t want to lose all of us for good.
People will say “bUt tHey’Re fAmiLy” like it means something, but being related to someone doesn’t mean you should have to take crap and abuse from them.
Also, sometimes when you cut people out, they will try to reach you and make all sorts of promised of how they’ll change and how things will be better.
Sometimes they mean it, but often, it’s empty promises.
Trust should have to be earned steadily over time, not by outrageous gestures.
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I stopped talking to my alcoholic dad for four years. He eventually reached out when he was in jail. Idk.
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Update 
My mum said she is going back to our home country. We are immigrants. And divorce my father. I am so sad and feel like the worst person in the world but I still think I did the best thing for me. I will miss her. And now that I have my heart broken from my ex leaving me, I have to deal also with this.
I am also surprised I am not in the hospital right now 
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