Let me paint you a picture first. My sister in law is an unmarried 50 year-old. Never been married. Never had a boyfriend until 2 years ago. She lives in her parents’ finished attic with treacherous steps. Morbidly obese and in need of dentures. Her teeth are disgusting to look at. She is also a devout Evangelical, and is constantly posting on Facebook that she needs prayers, then all these weirdos come crawling out of the woodwork to interject “Praying!” Dumb. She is one step removed from the tabernacle Christians who you may know as the people who believe you can handle venomous snakes, and if it bites you, well God will save you if it’s meant to be. Who in their right mind would play with a venomous snake by hand? She works part time at an abusive daycare for pre-K kids. They are party to child abuse virtually every day. That’s all I can say about that. In short, she is wide-open for a hell of a lawsuit if these things came to life. Her last boyfriend was a drug addict, and she got so wrapped around the axle with him that she helped him buy drugs (heroin and crack). On a brighter note, she doesn’t have a mean bone in her body, but she is still a rather dumb human being.
Fast-forward to yesterday. She is dating (and wanting to marry) this idiot she’s been seeing for about 6 months. He is a felon, having been sent to prison twice for drugs. She is totally head over heels for this guy. She called my wife (her sister) crying about how this dude is sending mixed messages about whether they are going to remain together. He is a member of her church, and apparently he got up in front of the congregation and announced to the church that he and her were having problems and wanted people to pray for them. This apparently rubbed the sister in law the wrong way, and now she is mad at him. She is constantly calling and talking of suicide because she is so in love with him. She will continue that no one likes her, etc. and she will be alone. I have a hard time seeing her with anyone because she is so emotionally immature.
My problem is partially with my wife, in that she won’t be direct with her and tell here to get a hold of herself and grow a backbone. The phone calls upset my wife because she is constantly playing the “No one loves me so I’m going to kill myself” card.
How do I get this woman to knock it off? I’m sick of hearing my wife bitch about her, but she still indulges her with sympathy. Family dynamics are not my forte. I have no family, and don’t know how to deal with this nonsense. I am more than half-tempted to call the sister-in-law up and tell her to knock that ■■■■ off, and dump the loser and move on.