How can you best deal with anger? Popping Benzos isn’t really a long term solution 
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I’m beginning to find just how healthy it is to hate. But hopefully not needing to dwell on it like u know. Just pure hatred
I try to just ignore it or push it down. It’s rather unhealthy to be honest. For me it’s less anger and more irritability though. Maybe try putting your anger into something productive like weight lifting or boxing. I know, a person who doesn’t exercise suggesting exercise isn’t the greatest, but I think it would help all of us, myself included. Now finding the motivation to exercise may be challenging, to say the least, but some day we’ll get there.
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I allow myself to feel the anger to its maximum so my body doesn’t deny its true feelings then I think about how I can deal with the cause of the anger if possible. Sometimes it involves adapting my perspective on things and acceptance. then sometimes I still have sadness and hate too but its manageable
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Just an email with something I don’t agree with from a coworker has really tipped me over the edge. She is messing with something I put a lot of work into crafting and she is just faffing about messing things up and it has made me angry beyond belief.
I have to stand in front of a room of people now knowing that she is messed with my work and she is taking my content to make her stuff look better as her words are that her piece is ‘too weak’ and she wants to take from my work to make her look better.
FYI don’t look at work email at 3am
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Wth.
That sounds so silly of her. Who is she to have the right to do that lol
If she gets her way I am refusing to go to the meeting. I have had enough of this kind of thing and I am looking for a new job.
These people have no integrity.
Sorry to hear about that situation sounds strange of her to do that
Should I be angry though? I am not sure. The voices have been telling me to take a knife into work and do stupid things.
Obviously I won’t do anything like that but my brain always starts spouting this kind of nonsense when I get annoyed and I think that upsets me more than what the person has done.
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I haven’t had voices like that so far so I’m not in the same situation, even if you are not thinking of doing anything like that.
I would be confused why she/he did that to you,
And I’d let them know that I don’t understand how that is fair. And see what they say.
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I like to believe that fury helps hold you together. But i think its healthy to feel anger. Just properly experiencing it is the key. Because it changes your perception of the situation.
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Being angry it’s good. It’s like being alive
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I think I’ve heard it’s hard on the heart.
sorry that is happening to you.
I’d be angry too.
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@Joker
Have you talked with her about it? You can have a conversation with her directly and give her opportunity to take responsibility and change. If she doesn’t, have the conversation again with her and a supervisor present.
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@FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter I took 20mg of Diazepam in the end before I went into work, so I did calm down a lot.
I spoke with her and I stood my ground and said she isn’t going to dismantle my work, and I got her to agree.
I guess I didn’t need to get angry, it was just I had seen the email at 3am and I got myself into a bit of a spin about it all.
I didn’t have to go over her head in the end. I was very blunt and just said we’re not moving stuff around otherwise it will devalue the work, and she didn’t argue with me.
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I was very popular during my first year at college, but I used to have haters too. The idea that I had to please everybody made me a lot depressed. There were people who said me things just to hurt me. I probably was not ready for such popularity.
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You handled it very well, even when emotions were strong! You practiced patience and self-control. You were assertive and brave. Great job!
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yeah, I get it.
I was chosen by my class
don’t know what I did to elicit it
to go head to head in a debate
I got an A. that’s all that mattered.
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anger management? i say use the anger to make productive energy, be it physical exercise or whatever.
that’s my two cents worth.
judy