My mom came today and gave me enough money and groceries that I can make it to pay day first week of October. She and I had some tearful memories together about her mother dying when I was in the 4th grade. I got to share with her that grandma took me to her side and told me she was not going to be around much longer and that I begged her not to go. She liked that I told her. I thought I had. Anyways, she has renewed faith in me since I stopped drinking and smoking weed. I think that’s why she gave me money. She has refused to help a couple of times and I got put in debt but I will be out of that debt at the end of the year and I can still support myself on what I make since I learned to budget around my cigarette money. Last vice standing. Glad I have this site to talk to. I am grateful for the people on this board.
Well that’s good that your mom is helping you. My mom helps me too. And my step-dad. And my step-mom. I don’t want to be ghoulish or macabre but it has surprised me often that people who know their going to die can face it so calmly and matter-of-factually. I would be scared.
my grandmother Ruth must have been a really strong person. Just with what I know about her trouble with my abusive grandfather and how she stopped him hitting her by going to his CO and showing him her bruises. My grandfather was warned that if he ever did it again he would be kicked out of the service. He never hit her again. Or mom and her sisters. He beat his son badly and my uncle never was normal after that. My mom is a very strong woman too. I think my grandmother just wanted to be honest with me so that I knew she would leave. Kind of her way of making sure I understood before she passed. Very loving my grandmother.
I think when your mother stopped supporting you financially because of his son smoking and drinking, was actually trying to help you and it is an expression of love. Now I know why, if she provided the fund and his son misuse it for alcohol and cigarette, you will think the habit is acceptable by your mother. Glad that you realized that.
That is nice of your Mother - Sounds like you have a pretty good relationship with her - good for you on kicking the habit
I’m glad you and your Mom can patch things up and start to rebuild that friendship.
This is when my Mom started helping out more with funds and things too. My Mom refused to have any of her money go to pot and alcohol… so as long as I was drinking and smoking… I got no extra money from her.