We made up.
We’ve decided we can’t live without each other.
And all my imperfections, who wants to be with me?
And I don’t want to be alone.
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Who’s not gonna be happy about this ?
Why’s it matter ?
oh, ok. never mind.
You gonna listen to a sorority or yourself ?
Not smart, just allowing an abuser to stay due to your own insecurities. That’s exactly what he wants. And that’s exactly how you’re going to get hit again. Police already don’t believe you.
You had your chance to be free and you blew it
You’ve got a lot of work to do on yourself daze. This isn’t healthy.
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Didn’t he throw a plate of food in your face the other day? I mean really.
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I didn’t blow it, the deputy didn’t even read the paper my mom and me wrote up!
Anyway, yeah, just thought I’d be honest right now, and I knew the response I’d get.
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Daze, the main problem here is you don’t care, and you’re attempting to normalize this unhealthy behavior because you’re unwilling to admit you need help, none the less actually go through with it.
You won’t stop drinking, you and Phil are still being violent with each other, the police have already been involved.
I think what bothers me is that you don’t even care to try, 90% of your problems are self inflicted, and you don’t even seem to care.
You’re happy wallowing in your own misery, lashing out at others when you need to share your anger. Unhealthily reading conspiracies, and sometimes sharing them.
You aren’t even trying to better your situation, and it’s disappointing, because people do genuinely care for you, even though you don’t seem to care about yourself.
And No, Phil doesn’t care. He wouldn’t treat you like that if he did
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I would like you to know half the pain I’ve suffered, and on-going, but why should I, you won’t even believe it.
I’ve done everything I’ve wanted to do with my life, I’ve left a legacy, and you’re right, at this point I just don’t care to put on a happy face and pretend.
Hi Daze,
I’m not privy to your personal life and the kind of relationship you’re having with your boyfriend, Phil or whatever his name was again.
In fact I stopped coming to this forum a while back. Pills are working. Socializing works too. I’m trying to get back my life. I recently went abroad just to give it a try with a girl I like. I wouldn’t hurt her even if my life was at stake. At least not physically. With words we’re less careful, unfortunately. And to top it all, she has a boyfriend here and she’s not ready to give that up. However I won’t give up either. I’m looking for a job here and staying in touch with her. Whenever she needs my help, I am there. Even if she never chooses me, as long as I like her, I will care for her and I will try to help whenever, however I can. That’s the sort of relationship I want to have with a woman.
Now, God didn’t make us all equal. We do have equal rights, yes, but we are so much different from each other. Some people need more conflict and disputes in a relationship. What do I know? As long as you don’t hurt each other too bad, I won’t tell you to quit him. You’re an adult, you should know what you’re doing.
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welcome back. thanks for your words. good luck with your girl.
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If that’s true, then you let the pain win, and you’ve truly given up.
I’m sorry for you daze, but if you’re word are true, then you’ll never be happy again. And you don’t care because your resting on your laurels of your “legacy”
Your legacy ends when you die, not before. At this pace the end of your legacy is nothing but submission.
And you seem to be ok with that
I’ve never done drugs. I don’t have a criminal record. I’ve never been married,
and raised two great kids on my own. It would be obscene if there was beer in the fridge when I was raising them.
It’s comfort now, that I want.
@Daze none of us can make your decisions for you. If you want to stay with the man who broke your leg, that’s your right as an adult. I do think you’re better off in a homeless shelter without him than staying with him for some kind of false security. But it’s your decision. We aren’t going anywhere, and we’ll still be here for support.
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It’s oblivion your after, something to help you cope with that’s wrong in your life. I know that drive very well.
it isn’t a reward for your hard work, It’s a crutch that you depend on. Oblivious to the damage it’s causing time and again.
And let me guess, Phil is still using drugs?
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he smokes pot. Believe me, I’ve railed on him about harder drugs he and ex have done when his kids were little. His adult son had to be in rehab.
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So you’ve got two people, both using intoxicants, both with their own mental health issues, in almost constant war with each other, physical violence, cops, broken bones and thrown food.
That’s your reward for a life of hard work and pain? I see no peace in that scenario, I only see a recipe for disaster.
Your raised lovely kids, and you’ve accomplished much with your writing and studies, you deserve better than this. You just have to believe it too.
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I appreciate all you’ve said, and I hope my mom is reading this.
I stopped being a perfectionist a long time ago @Ooorgle
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I’m wishing you the best daze, keep up the good fight.
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I agree with ninja that you’re better off in a homeless shelter. I’ve been in one before and they’re fine plus they feed you 3x a day. Battered women shelter is nicer than a homeless shelter though.
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