Would you call this a form of sexual abuse, or something odd my dad did?

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Well, first I’ll say I suffered some serious sexual abuse (rapes, molestation) at the hands of my older brother, but there was something my dad did when I was little that wasn’t right.

If I asked him for change, he’d tell me to reach into his pocket and get it. Sometimes I’d inadvertently feel his penis there, but I suppose that was the idea. Ugh, I can’t imagine telling a kid to reach into my pocket like that. Maybe I’m making too much of this, but it’s gross.

I don’t hold any ill feelings toward my dad, especially since his death.

I just got to thinking about it, and it was bothering me, needed to vent, I guess.

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That’s bad, any kind of abuse can lead to serious problems in adulthood…
On the positive side you were able to talk about it and that’s great :wink:
I’m kind of sensitive when it comes to sexual abuse, it can bring PTSD and that could ruin your sexual life…I hope it didn’t cuz love is an important thing to everybody…

If found a video about childhood traumas in yt (it’s one of my subscriptions and it helps me a lot understanding some of my issues) hope it helps…

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I think you shouldn’t think about it…it’s not significant for you right now and it could be an inocent thing. I’m sorry for you anyway. :frowning: Wish you The best. :slight_smile:

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Well, seems a bit odd, that’s for certain. Never asked my kid to reach into my pocket, although she did go fishing for cash on her own on more than one occasion (brat).

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sounds suspect to me

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Were your dad’s hands free? If they were, that’s pretty weird. Still, the other stuff that happened to you overshadows that, and that may have been the worst thing he did, so don’t sweat it.

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Yes that is weird and lacking appropriate boundaries at the very least.

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That’s super weird and creepy. Seems like abuse to me.

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I’m sorry you experienced abuse at the hands of your brother. Yes, what you are describing sounds like abuse.

The best thing you can do is acknowledge the love you have for your father and move on.

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@freakonaleash, are you a man or a woman?

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Does your father have a history of abusive behavior?

I can’t tell you what this all means as I didn’t know your father but I wouldn’t jump to conclusions.

It could have been innocent.

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@naturallycured, yes his hands were free. He just seemed to get a kick out of having me do it.

@SkinnyMe, I am a man.

@Wave, he never beat us kids or anything like that, just verbally abusive. I sometimes wonder if he did things to my older brother, thinking maybe that’s where my brother got these notions to abuse/molest me.

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Your brother must have learned it from somewhere, so perhaps your bro was abused by your father.

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