Worried about my sisters wedding

I’ll get to Bend, Oregon at 12:30 next Friday and they’re having a barbecue at 4:00 that afternoon. It will probably last until 8:00. I’m not worried that I’ll stand out or people will be judging me or everyone will be looking at me. I won’t know anyone except my family and what I’m afraid of is if I’m not able to hang around them that I’ll be all alone, by myself. I’m not good with strangers and I can’t see joining anyone else and eating and talking with them for four hours.

Same with the wedding the next day, I can’t see mingling with the other guests, I just have to hope I can hang around my oldest sister or my nephews the whole time. Or best case scenario maybe hang around them 3/4 of the time and 1/4 of the time hang around with the other guests. Bah, I’m supposed to be looking forward to this but the closer it gets the more I dread it.

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I recently had a similar experience when I got married. Had to mingle with many people on my wifes side of the family that I did not know, or did not know well. It will be ok @77nick77 . You’ll get through it.

I had to do a lot of this prior to the wedding and during. I dont think its undoable for you , as it was not for me.

Good luck.

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You’ll probably have a good time. Weddings are usually fun.

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What you are experiencing is anticipatory anxiety, I get anxious too right before an event.

Once I’m there I’m more at ease

Everything falls into place nicely.

You’ll be just fine @77nick77 once you’re there.

Enjoy!

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It’s wonderful you will be there for your sister that’s the important thing

the strangers are her friend’s and in laws friends

Just look nice. It is okay to be quiet just your presence and

just watch her have the best day of her life

Have some pre versed truths in case you have to small talk

“I’m here for my sister” “she’s marrying a great guy”

“This is a beautiful wedding”

Some things you are willing to share about yourself

I felt the same at my sister’s wedding years ago

I felt bad I didn’t go up to publicly toast as her brother

at the time but she said afterwards she understood

you can do it @77nick77 congratulations hope it all goes well

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