I felt like such a prat today. I got into the depot clinic to be told my t shirt was on inside out and then I was told perhaps I should change it.
I don’ think the person giving the depot was in the best of moods he was even curter with me than usual.
I’ve been guilty of the inside out and backwards shirts a few times. When others have commented, I just tell them that by doing this, I can wear my shirt another week or so without washing it.
Kinda got shorted in the interaction department at the depo clinic, eh?
You’d hope the people working there could at least be half way decent, but, I guess they’re only human too.
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I put my clothes on backwards. It’s ridiculous. I’ll make a point of carefully putting them on the right way but somehow in the middle of the process, they still end up flipped. It’s a mystery.
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They don’t usually say much anyway but his whole attitude was off this morning. It supposed to be where you can talk about your concerns but the reality is very different.
I hate it when that happens.
People who are in our position are subject to the moods of those who discharge our care. I don’t think we can do much about it.
people are so judgemental. What’s the harm? jeesh
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I have my shirt on inside out today as well. Noticed it before reading this but didn’t change it yet 
My archnemesis is the shoelaces on my sneakers. I never notice they’re not tied and I just walk around. Random people will tell me. I never have the urge to re-tie them, though. Who has the time for THAT? So, sometimes I say thank you and just keep walking.
Normals find this odd for some reason.
Don’t feel bad, all of us have some kind of quirk like that!
I think they comment on such things because personal appearance becomes a marker for any signs of deterioration.
I once went in unshaven and was told I needed to have a shave next time. In my case I just hadn’t felt like shaving, but I guess if I had been trying to grow a beard the response would have been the same.
Another time I got called out because my finger nails were a little long.
The thing is they call you out on those things but unless you are acutely ill(danger to self or others) you are put on virtual autopilot in terms of support. To be just functioning at a not particularly high level within living independently is deemed good enough.
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I am currently wearing slip ons. When I wear shoes/trainers with laces they are constantly coming untied. If I am honest I am not sure I tie them up properly.
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Your health workers seem like ■■■■■■■’s. Telling you how you should dress. Now obviously say you have not changed clothes or washed in months then yeah maybe say something but do it with a bit of compassion.
Is a sad state of affairs when mental health workers are judging you let alone Joe public.
My casual shoes are the same style but different colours. This irritates people.
The thing is I don’t dress very smartly. I wear the same black/darkblue elasticated waist trousers I have had for years and a variety of mostly blue t shirts I have also had for years.
I am not good at choosing clothes for myself. When my wife was alive and well she took care of that.
I have very little in the way of what I would call smart clothes. Mostly suits that I have bought for funerals as I had outgrown the previous suit.
I have a few actual shirts but never wear them as most need ironing and I am useless at that.
If I was rich I’d solve the problem by having a personal clothes shopper.
I would too! I don’t own many clothes, let alone new ones. Don’t like shopping, and when I do go out, it is like there is a timer counting down from about 45 minutes… Anything that I didn’t get within that period will have to wait until next time…
I did succeed in finding a new suit, shirt and tie recently, might wear that on other occasions than the wedding it was intended for 
It’s these basic things of taking care of oneself that I have problems with. I did go through uni without too much trouble. Sz is weird.
Same here. Things like hygiene and keeping the flat clean and tidy I really struggle with. The thing is unless you have a care co ordinator/support worker that visits your home then these things don’t get noticed.
I think you should leave it inside out. That used to be a fad in the 1980s and it is high time that fad is brought back.
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haha really? I’m listening 80’s music all night already - it must have been
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I look on pinterest for what people are wearing. When I go to the thrift stores, I buy blouses that look similar. It’s probably different for a woman, though, since we always have fashion pushed in our faces, making it easier to mimic.
If normals knew how much thought I put into looking and acting like them, they’d probably get weirded out. Still, my go-to clothes are like exercise pants and a raggedy tank top. I do like shopping at thrift stores though.
See? It’s from pinterest. These are called skinny jeans and they are frequently worn by normals. Boots work good as both a fashion statement and as an all-terrain shoe. V-neck sweaters are becoming big. Belts are partly functional, partly just for the look.
When I started undergrad as a transfer to the university, I wore things like this (not me pictured)
I noticed that I stood out, everyone else wore this:
so I went and bought tights at the thrift store and little cute tank tops like this:
I’m grateful for thrift stores, they usually have something that passes for stuff normies wear.