i am so confused and i know everyone here is sick of me talking about my in laws and a few weeks ago for Easter they gave me a basket with some candy. they told me even though they are hard on me and pick on me doesn’t mean they don’t like me. what the hell is wrong with these people? they constantly expect me to keep the yard clean of dog poop of dogs that aren’t even mine or my partners. now we have to plan for two more dogs and two more cats in our apartment and its only a studio. i just i don’t know what to think anymore. has anyone else ever flipped flopped like this with you before?
The sooner you’re out of there the better.They might have just liked you in the moment. Over-all, from reading your posts about them I have never seen one sign that they like you. My prediction is that they will go back to not liking you tomorrow.
On the other hand maybe they just feel guilty about how bad they treat you and they were trying to make up for it. Or maybe they said they like you to ease their own conscience. Or maybe they are lying and just being cruel.
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In my experience, the worst offenders tend to be very nice, then evil, then nice again, then evil.
It keeps you guessing. It keep you around. It messes with your head that maybe, just maybe they aren’t as mean as you might have mistakenly believed.
This kind of abuse really messes with your head for years to come, long after the damage has been done.
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you two are very wise thank you for the advice. kay’s uncle has been taking her driving. she said she doesn’t feel as anxious when she drives with him so that’s good. she is back to having a garnishment on her pay so we get pay that’s been cut In half and some how we have to make it work.
Yes, my abusive ex-husband flip-flopped all the time. They’re abusive, @cbbrown. That’s what they do.
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My abusive ex husband was evil, then nice, evil, then nice all the time too. Messed with my head for years. My father was the same way. Gave me a permanent distrust of men in general. I’ve stayed unmarried for the last 31 years. I’ll go to my grave unmarried.
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Yes reminds me of my weed dealer in college. Probably one of the most painful relationships I ever had.
@cbbrown don’t ever trust them, they are evil. that’s my two cents anyways. I still think you have more power than you think if you would just threaten to leave Kay and everybody would wake the hell up.
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Don’t let the head trip confuse you. They are abusive. Period. Keep working on getting out ASAP.
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the dodge caliber that they bought for my mother in law is almost completely fixed, which means they will give my partner more often driving lessons hopefully in her van I think anyway.
they took off again with my partner and bought her lunch and dinner leaving me at home alone. I can’t help but feel so left out, they never take me anywhere when they get paid yet we kay gets paid they expect lunch and dinner me of course not being there.
they get mad when I tell my parents they never take me anywhere and yet they never seem to want to take me with them. what am I suppose to lie to my parents. my mom said they are embarrassed by me because of my weight. I know one person on this planet loves me and that’s kay. yet I can’t go with them anywhere but she said that isn’t her decision.
I am sorry that you are in that situation and I look forward to when you and your partner can afford to live alone. I don’t blame you for feeling left out.