been talking to mom and dad about visiting my grandparents graves nearby regularly and decorating their graves. we never go to see their gravestones. 2 of my grandpas and 1 of my grandmas are all buried in the same cemetary. I was thinking it would be nice if we regularly went there and thought about them. I don’t know what to leave at the gravestone? just flowers and candles? I don’t know if I want to leave pictures for everybody to see.
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Flowers are nice.
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Fake flowers last a long time
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Flowers & candles are nice!
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Cemetery’s have different rules on what you can leave. 
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Maybe you could just add a simple bunch of flowers with some pictures of them when they were younger (u can always scan and print). Its hard to suggest - this sort of thing is personal to everyones emotional needs.
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Candles are nice, as are flowers, pictures, pretty rocks and stones…
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Maybe build a small altar/shrine and sacrifice a rabbit…
Kidding.
I dunno. I never thought about anything else but lighting a candle at the church in memoriam.
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When I visit my mom’s grave I usually bring a single rose to leave on the headstone.
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If you was living in london where i was for 5 years. When your “bruv” got knifed. You would pour half a can of special brew over it. Amazing how there is so many different values placed upon Death. Never bought into that crap myself. Sorry - seemed relevent to me…
At my little niece’s gravestone we have left little statues, rocks and outdoor friendly things that were meaningful to her life.
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Flowers are pretty, meaningful, and bio/degradable .
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I like @freakonaleash suggestion. im going to leave a rose and a little candle. don’t know if the candles are allowed or not.
In my family (cultural thing) we leave a rock on the headstone to show that someone has visited/cares.
Its easy and doesn’t make a mess.
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What did your grandpas and granma like to do? What hobbies did they have? Leave something along those lines.
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What i’d leave on my father’s grave if I ever saw it again would be a pipe, an old Playboy magazine, a beer, a deck of cards, one of his gospel CD’s with my Uncles, and a Little Debbies snack cake. That would define him well.
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I always leave flowers at my grandfather’s grave and say a few words before I leave. I haven’t visited the grave since last year because of the snow, but I miss seeing him.
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I never visit my ancestors’ graves. I find it pointless.
I’d leave a handwritten letter if it was someone I really missed. Otherwise, flowers, candles, and decorations are fine
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Plant a rosebush and water it regularly