what if you only want sex and not relationships or marriage. do you think that makes somebody a bad person? Im not that way anymore but for a few years in my 20’s I only wanted my freedom and to be able to get laid on occasion. I didn’t want to deal with other peoples emotions or feelings, just wanted to be selfish and live my own life.
do you thinks its in the dsm?
It’s a lifestyle choice not an illness in the dsm.
I think nothing matters. We’re molecules or whatever you want to call it that are currently aware. Its unique, I will not say gift, but it is unique. Do what you want, eventually we’ll all pass away, no human has the ability to go into eternity and tell you you’ll suffer the same state forever, because they would indeed themselves have to be forever, and humans are not capable of this. So do what you want, we’re only here for awhile. The construct of society and I say construct because it was put in place is there for balance or whatever you want to call it, other than that anything is possible, any direction.
yeah, but I fell in love with my kids dad
what could I do?
It was all so sudden and meant everything to me
I was only 21…
Make sure you’re honest about it. Don’t lead anyone on
just talking about past life me. im not that way anymore. in a few years I imagine I will want a relationship and no sex.
Yes I agree with @Loke.
Make sure you are up front with your partner.
You don’t want to hurt anyone.
Met some guy at a meet up that wanted something similar. Thought he was totally only thinking of himself. Told him to hit the road jack and don’t you come back no more no more.
There have been periods in my life where all I wanted was a hook up. So I would have happily been looking for someone like you. I think being honest is the way to go. Problem is sex has a way of bringing people closer than they might have wanted to get originally and then things get confusing. I think masterbation is the way to go really. I think if I had it to do all over again that’s the route I would choose. Less mess all around.
@anon12381882 no more no more no MORE no more…hit the road jack …and don’t you come back no more…oh you don’t mean that…don’t you come back no more…aww baby…love me some Ray Charles…
It’s a natural physical need. Different cultures have different takes and that’s what makes people question whether or not it’s acceptable. You aren’t alone, lots of people have a need for sex but can’t or don’t want a relationship. As long as all parties involved are aware of the nature of the interaction and being safe I see no issue. I think a very big issue is forcing yourself to be in a relationship when you don’t want to be or aren’t able to be because you need to satisfy your sexual needs. It’s healthy to know what your needs are and to not commit to things you can’t follow through with because you think it’s what you’re supposed to do.
It will only work when your young unless you get your hands on a lot of money. I feel to this day that was all I had to offer really and I didn’t care to do it because I knew that was the wrong reason to do it. I had watched my brothers raise their kids and knew I wouldn’t be able to handle it. Maybe some day you will want more than just sex but if you can’t provide more than that then just prepare for that kind of life. I would advise that you don’t try to have kids but I understand if you do anyway. It’s difficult to get a letter addressed to “the Blizzard household” and know I’m the only one there now that I’m not young any more.
This is just my opinion but I think just sex is fine if you can get it. I don’t see anything wrong with one night stands if that’s what you want. But it depends on what you are doing to get it. Taking advantage of or exploiting another person just to gratify yourself is not OK. But if you find someone and it’s understood that you both just want the same thing and you’re both consenting adults I don’t see anything wrong with two adults humping their brains out like two rabbits for a night or two. Hell, sex is good for your health; it relieves stress and it’s fun.
And like someone said here about a month or two ago; Quote: “When I’m old I at least want some good memories.”
Sure, women may be in a more vulnerable position when it comes to sex in some ways, but c’mon, lets call a spade a spade: lots of women like sex as much as guys do. They all aren’t these chaste, innocent people being taken advantage of, there’s plenty of woman willing to hop in the sack if the guy is half-way decent, respectful person. But there’s plenty of competition out there if you’re a man.
I don’t use women as flesh for me to ■■■■ and then move on…there’s porno for that.
Women are human beings man…treat women like ladies and get in a relationship if that’s what you want…but just jerk off if you just want sex. don’t use women man.
I feel like that’s every young guy.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. Unless you are inconsiderate and hurt other people in the process, which many young guys do (not all) continuing to hook up with girls who are madly in love with them and want a relationship while not agreeing to any sort of exclusive relationship and just getting with them because they can. That to me is horrible, self-centered and inconsiderate behavior and I have seen too many close friends be victim to that behavior.
And guys will blame the girls like well they choose to stick around, but they have emotional investment. You can’t battle emotion with logic. The girls know the situation sucks, but they can’t change their feelings. It would be easiest for the guy to just cease interactions because he has no emotional investment and is already sleeping with other girls. But many of them are so inconsiderate they wouldn’t even think of it because hey one more way to get laid right?
Solution? Always be clear about what you want going into something. Find others who just want a hookup, then everyone wins! If things change and the other person ends up wanting more, be a decent person, be honest and straightforward in that you are still not looking for that, and then cut contact so they can eventually move on.
Dam u went super deep lol
When I was off meds I only wanted sex lol. Although I was willing to date a girl so I can have a way to get sex easier. But now on meds I’m not a horny ■■■■■■■ any longer and I want intellectual stimulation and companionship 
Go to prostitutes if you want only sex, don’t hurt people
Prostitutes are already hurt, can’t hurt them much more.
