I’m very rusty when it comes to dating, but I’ve never used a site or an app. All my dates have been by knowing them in person.
I value a lot the first impression. I have never liked (for dating) someone that I was not excited for at the beginning.
I believe in true connection. Like, there is something chemical, visual, the way they move and act, how they talk, that makes you click or not at first. It’s something very superficial, but at the same time, profound and archaic.
Sometimes you get reciprocity, sometimes you don’t. But that’s part of the process, I guess…
Loyalty
Decency
Intelligence
Attraction
Sense of humour
Good manners
Things in common
Interest in keeping fit
Good morals
Likes animals
Compassion towards others
Not racist
Not homophobic
Good dress sense
Not too many tattoos
There has to be a spark I think. Like more than just a friendly one, if that makes sense. And even then, it has to be reciprocated by both parties. Can’t really explain it, but sometimes it just happens.
There are also nuances to how a guy carries himself.
Also, is he nice to me and others? That’s a pretty big one in my book. How one treats people says a lot about them.
Yeap, I agree with everything. It may be seen as superficial, but it’s not. It’s not just the appearence, it’ way more nuanced. I prefer to know in person vs online “forced” date…
I value deep spiritual intimacy connection and sacred Union romance.
I do value physical attraction and that doesn’t mean “perfect body as such” but more connection attraction to who they are and feel comfortable with them and be able to have sexual desire with them.
I value being respected and treated beautifully.
I value thoughtfulness and care and not being cheap with me.
I value more “superficial things” too such as his person and how he behaves and what his morals are etc
To protect my sanity and keep myself sober i should not date a drug addict or alcoholic nomatter how much I love them it could be to destructive for me.
I wouldn’t mind having a gentle man and seeing how that is.
I value that he is stable because it an unstable man could negatively effect my mental health.
I would love for him to have a stable home so if I can land me one that’ll be great.
Another superficial thing I value and favour is long hair , beard and tattoos and being physically attracted.
It’s not a must but i do favour this physically.
SAFETY: honesty, open and direct communication, good sense of boundaries, integrity.
VALUES: matching core values.
ATTRACTION: not a superfast overwhelming thing. But some sort of chemistry.
WARMTH: empathy, sensitivity, compassion, kindness, genuine connection.
Okay…and creativity and humour help a bit. All the rest I don’t care…he can be disabled, poor, ugly, jobless and live with his parents. That’s fine by me.
Edit: obviously, but that is logical to me, if he is in any way unkind to my kid, or for some reason it is not good for kid that I date with him…it’s exit.
