Tomorrow morning I will talk to the church’ secretary to find out the cost and the dates available.
I am not sure if I want to throw a party. Maybe just me and my partner could go, get blessed and then go home.
07 - 07- 2017 on Monday or 17 - 07 - 2017 Thursday.
Should I throw a small party? in a nice hotel outdoors? I need to invite around 35 people without kids.
I like weddings. Everybodies happy and in a good mood and no one wants to spoil or wreck the day. The reception is actually my favorite part of the whole thing with the good food and drink.
I had a big wedding with a huge party and dancing. My friend had a simple ceremony with a casual brunch afterwards for just close friends and family. We were both equally pleased with our decisions. I think it all depends on the couple and what they want.
You’re getting married? I thought you were going overseas.
@Patrick you’re back!
@cherie my partner and i can’t get married since it would make me lose my medicaid and ssi benefits. but we always talked about having a small ceremony with some friends and little family. i say a little family since neither side wants us together.
“Are weddings nice?”
I’ve never been invited to one.
would dream about marrying someone. many years passed. person’s probably married. I dream of being friend.
What?! Geez congratulations! 
It’s all about what you want a feel most comfortable doing. I can give two examples of some recent weddings I’ve attended my cousin Jason and the second one his brother Jeremy…they were as different as night and day. Jason got married in a Catholic church, very formal day-time wedding, and being he’s part of a community up where he lives called nights of Columbus they did a little ceremony at the end of the wedding where he and his wife Candice walked under rows of swords. Their reception was held at a lodge/hotel like place that had a huge ball-room, and was your typical dance/dinner party. You ordered ahead of time and they served you your meal, at the end they cleared the dance floor and had the dance party.
Jeremy on the other hand got married outside at a park near his home. His reception was held at a golf/country club in his community, very casual. They had a buffet style dinner, and at the end instead of a big cake they served cup-cakes. Instead of a dance party he had a comedian/musician perform for the guests while they hung out at the country-clubs bar area. No dance. No church. Both parties were very nice, and fit their personality’s to a Tee.
I don’t really want to mention that Jeremy eventually got a divorce because he found out she only wanted to be with him for money and she didn’t treat his son from a different relationship very well. But it had nothing to do with the wedding or receptions. Sometimes it just doesn’t work out I guess.
So I say plan something you feel most comfortable in doing. If a big party isn’t your thing then don’t have one, it’s all up to you.
Wow did not see this coming? What made you decide to get married?
One time I went to my cousin Brandi’s wedding the wedding was a typical catholic wedding, but the reception was held in a big hall like area and she and her party wound up showing up like two hours late to the dance portion of the wedding completely drunk off their a** and was a pretty terrible night after that. I honestly don’t think she wanted to get married, but it was something her mother was pushing her to do otherwise I don’t think she would have acted that way…their marriage also didn’t last…which was no surprise to anyone in the family.
@cherie,
First you’re going overseas…then you’re getting a neck tattoo…now you’re getting married…
I don’t think you should be making any life-changing decisions in this moment you’re in.
Wait until you are less flighty and more grounded. I could be wrong, but I believe your med changes are toying with you’re emotions right now.
However, if I’m wrong and you are 100% committed to marriage at this point I wish you all the best and hope you have a wonderful life with your beau! 
I was never a big fan of weddings in actually attending them. I guess if it was my wedding I would have a different opinion. I wish you the best though. Maybe you can have an online wedding so that everyone from the forum can be there.
I love parties, including wedding parties. But i dont like stiff and formal parties where you invite the people because you have to invite them not because they really make nice company and want to have fun celebrating with you the special occasion. Like if you have to invite certain family which you dont get along well just because they are family. I like parties where everyone is at ease but not out of control. There is a big difference. My wedding we celebrated with over 100 people. Lots of dancing, some speeches, good catering, so you dont have to worry about cooking food, and some games and performances. Everybody was on good behaviour and there were no fights, just happyness.
Oh btw cherie, getting married in church means not just a blessing and you go throw a party. There is a very serious part to it where you give each other an oath before God, your witnesses and the priest to stay together in good and bad times until death. Are you ready for this? If not then do not get married in church. Just because this is what people do does not mean you have to do it if you dont feel it. Just be sure about it please. If you feel you want to stay with this one man for the rest of your life, then go for it and be blessed.