I had some flashes of my trauma in a brief episode and now I want to hurt myself.
I really want to do something to my skin and just tear it apart.
Please help. I think I’m dying
Dont hurt yourself. It solves nothing and will leave you feeling more empty. Please take some deep breaths, and, if you can, take out your aggression on something that isnt yourself. We care, dont think your trauma defines you. It does not.
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Thank you, I’m trying really hard. I’m just really nervous and I just want to rip my skin out.
Do you have a prn you can take? Or at least something calming to do like play with your dogs or make some tea
I’m probably going to listen to some music.
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I just want to scream.
Good idea with the music. I know its hard and I wish I knew what to tell you but I know youre strong. You have to be to go through trauma and make it out. Take care of yourself @anon10648258
Make sure you listen to some like death metal. I know thats your favorite 
Some things I do to calm down are:
Put an ice pack on the back of your head. This will cool down your brain and reduce activity in your limbic system, where emotions happen.
Do a task with simple, clear steps. I like baking. I follow the recipe, and it’s easy enough that I don’t get frustrated, but it requires enough concentration that I don’t have room to think about other things. Cleaning also helps.
Engage your five senses. This will remind you what is real and what isn’t. Listen to soothing music. Smell something pleasant, like an essential oil. Suck on a hard candy. Look at pictures of things you enjoy. Feel something with an interesting texture, like a piece of Velcro or a stress ball.
Try to levitate something with your mind. You obviously won’t succeed, but it gets you to focus all of your attention on a single point outside your body, instead of on your thoughts. I like to use this on airplanes or in public places, because it doesn’t require you to move at all. It looks like you’re just daydreaming to observers.
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will do. I’m not going to study today…too much pain. Take care as well
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Thank you so much. I’m trying so hard because I think I could rip my skin off in any second…
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One member told me once that to prevent cutting, she takes a purple marker and draws the slashes on her body instead. Purple is her favorite color, and that way she can calm the addiction without causing any actual damage.
Oh okay, I will try that. I’m worried about what my mom will say the next morning. She probably will ask a thousand questions.
My friend is an artist, and when she feels the urge to self-harm, she draws a pretty picture on her body instead. That way she’s creating instead of destroying, and when she’s done she can be proud of what she drew instead of hating herself even more.
Your mom knows you struggle with self-harm. She will probably be relieved that you drew instead of hurting yourself.
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Take a deep breath. Count to four while you inhale. Hold for two. Exhale for four. Repeat. Try to increase the length of each breath. Focus only on breathing.
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Breathe. Focus only on breathing.
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@anon10648258 you can get through this. Get your mind onto something other than yourself. Take in a breath and hold it for 4 counts. Exhale. Hold for 4 counts. Inhale and repeat. You’ve got this.
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Hi @LilyoftheValley @Ninjastar I am feeling a bit better but Im still nervous a little. Sorry i was trying to type but I couldnt because i was shaking and everything was telling me to cut
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