So based on past experiences it took me a hell of a long time to build my trust on this guy… Trust me. We waited a whole year to get to the I won’t go into details. But you get it.
My colleague at work came up to me to ask me when I’m getting married. And that if he’s not ready to wait a year and dump him if he don’t come round. She thinks he’s not the right guy. Without knowing him.
Now I would love to get married. But I want him to be ready. I want to wait. And even if that means we don’t get married. It’s not the end of the world. We can still be together. And if that’s not what he ends up wanting then I wish him all the happiness. But it hurts me to even think of myself with someone else. I won’t be looking if he ends it.
Sounds like you were fine until other people dumped their expectation baggage on you. Try and forget it was ever mentioned and remember how you felt before they asked.
If I’m honest the ones who have passed their comments don’t seem all that happy with their own lives so they want to meddle in mine. I’m not leaving him just because I’m not getting a bloody signed piece of paper.
He says he’s not ready but that to her reads as he doesn’t think your the one you should leave him. But when he says not ready what he means is , we haven’t even gotten to know each other by living together getting more comfortable and suppose we do get married we haven’t even decide where to live …
She sounds like someone who is unhappy and wants company, so she’s trying to drag you down to her level. Your guy moves slow. He always has. But he’s also always been honest and up front. I don’t think there’s any reason to doubt his intentions now. You’ve met his family, he’s met yours. He loves you. You love him. You don’t have to move at anyone else’s pace.
Exactly. I’ve got to start speaking my mind to these people. One of them even said you’re Indian it’s not in our culture to be living in. Well, first of all it’s none of her business how I live and if my own mother doesn’t have a problem with it why is she hurting so bad over it.
You don’t necessarily have to clap back at them. Just don’t hold their opinions in such high regard. You know what makes you happy. Others know what makes them happy. You don’t have to live a life that makes others happy.
It’s not so much you. We don’t personally know each other and I understand you don’t know the full extent of our circumstances… I guess they don’t know either. I agree @Ninjastar I should probably just accept people have a difference of opinion , values and I can just agree to disagree. And not let it get to me.