it’s been so long since I have done anything in the way of real socializing that I don’t even know how to go about it. my work place has functions that are semi social and I am wondering if that’s the best way to go to start getting out a little.
I just don’t feel that welcome anywhere.
I don’t like sz.anonymous because I often don’t hide that I have sz.
what do you do?
thanks, judy
It is a long time since I went to a Schizophrenics Anonymous Meeting. Do they tell people to hide their schizophrenia?
Personally, I work at passing for normal. The world can be kind of brutal.
Yours,
J.
hi j. I have never been to sz.anonymous but I assumed from their group name and also from some list I once read of what they ask of group members that it be kept secret. I could be wrong.
I also work at passing for normal. still, there are many who know I have sz and I often feel comfortable telling my friends that I have it.
the world feels brutal to me too but I am told I am being paranoid.
judy
I live at an assisted living center for the mentally ill, so I am surrounded by about forty people like me. That satisfies my need to socialize, even though I do isolate a lot. When we go to town everyone who sees us knows where we’re from, so it is kind of pointless to try to pass for normal. Under different circumstances I might try to. I’m considering moving into my own apartment in public housing, but I’m afraid the cops might start hassling me again if I do that.
I work at being normal too. But it pays off.
Yeah, I think it was Hobb’s who said, life is nasty, brutish, and short.
I used to socialize a lot. Now I don’t anymore. I’m trying to get back to that. I just like being around people. I’m not actually the most likable person all the time, but who is? A lot of people aren’t social. Some people don’t care. My happiest times were when I was social. Men/women are social animals.
nick, me too. isn’t socializing in a healthy friendly atmosphere one of the joys of life. i love it and cannot find opportunity for it unfortunately.
judy
I really want social life and ho out in the evening. Might try Meetupi
Having issues with schiz makes it double hard
Meetup.com is great in most cities. The activity groups who use this event scheduler/member manager are usually pretty affordable…
Everyone my age drinks and smokes weed or does both and then hardcore drugs. Here I am drinking coffee and taking antipsychotics and crap.
A lot of my friends have left, like they’re gone to school all over the place, I have a few friends here, two are flaky and one lives with his girlfriend so he’s often busy. Before he started dating her we were always hanging out, but it’s the best for him.
It sucks. I’ve met people at school, most of them drink and crap. I just can’t party until 3am, that’s what a lot of the people my age do. Oh well, my academic record is not like a lot of the people my age.
I don’t even know what to do if I did make new friends. I did make a friend, well more like he made an effort to befriend me, and he just went to a PhD program.
I’m not really any fun, but I used to be fun. Now I go to bed at like 10pm, don’t drink or smoke, nope no fun.
The worst part is that I had a girlfriend last semester but all we did was drink and smoke among other things.
I have been told by actual adults that I have grown up. I guess that counts for something.
I have a very hard time with a social life… I’m always afraid I won’t fit in. I’m always afraid something will happen while I’m out.
Plus… all the time and effort it takes… just putting together a meal out is a lot of logistic that is beyond me. I get very self conscious in large groups, or even small groups of new people.
I have some family who come over and I see people at work for a bit, but I don’t really have a big social life. Which is fine…
At 30… people my age are a little less out and about anyway.
I hope to meet some friends in school which starts…TOMORROW. ■■■■. BETTER GET MY BOOKS AND WHATNOT. Damn i’m ready though. But yeah I wanna meet friends at school. I have my 1-2 friends, my family, my schizophrenia.com friends, but my other circle of online friends have all become addicted gamblers and lost their minds completely and I can’t deal with it anymore. Gotta get some new friends to pass the time. Like 1 girl-friend.
I think your work functions are a great start. I’m the same way. I don’t go out or have friends. My therapist is the only social outing I attend.
I’m actually actively trying to destroy my social life as my feelings towards people have become a bit, well, negative. But for some reason people keeps hanging around round me even though I feel extremely paranoid and akward round almost everybody.
Guess it’s OP’s problem backwards 
thanks for replying to me and my post.
i have heard that even “normies” have trouble now finding social opportunities.
we are lucky we have each other here on these forums. it feels like “comradarie” to me and i love it.
hugs, judy