What is one? why am i just picking as if its like im crowd blending,… In no offending way.
True friends. Honestly that’s as mysterious and rare to come across as true love. Though you’ll find it more appropriate to have multiple friends versus multiple lovers.
Truth is dude, most everyone has anxieties towards just about everyone. People can roll in confident, take the moment as passing and really down play the importance of the whole ordeal. Puts, off an air of confidence and sort of seeming above everyone else. It’s kind of just an act. Some people do really have fulfilling lives they have worked to earn that maintains that sense of lack of concern in the background of their mind. They got good people they know elsewhere already so things become less important.
Now that seems totally tangential, but the point is that it’s alright to be anxious. I’ll say beyond that that anxious people are those who are filled with concern and if you are a concerned/anxious person than you can play it casual and be forward, not burden them, forgive their anxiety as they forgive yours and probably get along with them pretty well. As you ain’t judging. The recognized anxieties whether mutual or otherwise are unacknowledged and unspoken, forgiven and accepted.
Those are where my good friends come from. Either early on in life, or later on with a heavy coat of just looking stranded alone and anxious.
If you are unique and well intended, you probably won’t get along with most of the folks out there. A lot of people have a lot of friends and find them to be a total burden all in all. It’s important to not be a burden, but over time people will probably be genuinely interested and ask about your story… even then., don’t be a burden. Watch for cues that they are losing interest, wrap up your thoughts, fall quiet. It’s a surprisingly good tactic for letting them show if they want the silence filled with more talking. Renewing their interests or if they are done. If it the case of the latter, than you gotta just drop it and accept you were barking up the wrong tree.
So…
To actually answer the question. A true friend to me is someone who shows concern. Kind of just beyond being acquaintances. Like they due concern themselves with you in their head. You aren’t someone they just ignore.
Also though, they kind of will commit to hearing you out. Damn crazy that I have a friend at this point that will entertain my bantering. I got a lot of thoughts, I like talking. It feels good to get them out there, but even that is something I know I gotta learn how to control.
Minds gotta resonate. Similarity of some kind that allows mutually satisfying conversations to exist.
A true friend farts with you so you don’t feel ashamed that you farted by accident.
I just think its that simple. Something about that underneath, that makes a real friend.
…Sorry. Couldn’t resist. Though I’m quite serious.