I must try to be myself,so that I don’t get so anxious…my colleague asked me to accompany him to play badminton with a group of people around our age,I agreed him because he asked me sincerly,but then I am so anxious now about the session which starts in another hr…I think I should be relax and just be myself and don’t pressurize myself for no reason,I also don’t like the feeling of getting anxious or confuse…thanks for listening
I think my motive is to accompany my colleague and play badminton…hope I don’t stand out too badly
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I understand your fears . . . Let us know how it went!
Jayster
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In the end it was fine,they are not judgemental and I did my part to participate…but I am not gonna say these people’s friendship with me will go far,but I am really open,I don’t want to miss a chance of a potential friendship but the priority is to take care of myself and then make friends…at times I still feel I am lacking some sort of feelings,like I am standing out in the wrong way,which maybe,maybe I should have been more reserved
I enjoyed my time at the end though…
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I think this is normal for most people to be nervous especially if you don’t know your colleagues friends well.
It might help to think everyone is a little nervous so it’s okay
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Even though you were anxious-you still went and that`s a good thing!
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Yea your right,but if your nervous always it makes people sometimes feel uncomfortable but thanks for your reason that comforts
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The less expectations I have from myself (and others) helps in creating a more relaxed, and comfortable environment. When there are no expectations, everyone can focus on the reason they got together in the first place- to have a good time.
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Well said,how do we tone down expectation to other in the first place,I at times expect others to do the work…in socializing I am passive,I expect others to talk first,that’s my habit but I do initiate and talk first sometimes to be honest sometimes I feel I build a little pressure to others…
Most of that ■■■■ is in your head. Just relax find comfort with yourself and deal with thigs as they come. If you’ve got nothing to say it’s probably better that way. Most people are simple think simple things.
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Your right,I was feeling pressure yesterday when a girl walk towards me and I was like very nervous,I think I shouldnt have looked at her so much and listen attentively and replied with reason and mindful things
You went. Good going. Much as some of us occasionally complain against “normies” I have found that they OFTEN will give you a fair chance.
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“90% of success is just showing up”.
Woody Allen, American Film Director…
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It’s a long way to be sucessful,I remember I had suicide ideation a month ago,it’s like a rock bottom experience,it’s not very possible to climb fast and back up fast but I will try…and be tacticful this time round
I know that this may not help you since we are all different, but when I am anxious or in doubt of myself, I stay quiet (but polite) until I have the ability to observe everyone enough to know where I could fit or if I even would.
If anything else, I hope that you just simply have a good time playing the game itself. It is okay to show that you are there for the game and your colleague alone. You don’t have to impress anyone, but yourself.
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Yea…I had the bad habit of trying to impress other but not myself,thinking that you had done well is good enough,I think life is never perfect for anyone…