For those who were successful with online dating , what can you tell us about how to be successful? I am trying it again and I never seem to have any luck.
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Your profile page needs to be interesting. Make sure to fill it out with your interests and any hobbies you enjoy. Try to have at least one good picture, with good lighting, a good angle, but also it should be an honest view of how you really look in real life. And most importantly, don’t take yourself too seriously! It’s supposed to be fun.
When I was doing online dating, I got a lot of basic messages like, “Hey, how are you?” There isn’t anything necessarily wrong with that, but when you get a hundred messages per day that say the same thing, you tend to overlook all of those and get drawn to the real messages. Like, “I see you love skateboarding! I haven’t skateboarded before, but I like to snowboard.” Just an example.
But that kind of message kinda makes people want to respond. I think people looking to seriously date someone, are more likely to be drawn to more personal messages that show that you have a real interest in them.
I am no expert, so don’t take everything I said to heart. This is just my opinion and view of online dating. I met my husband 9 years ago, on a dating website. So, don’t lose hope! It’s possible to find someone. And online dating is becoming more and more common, for how people meet their long-term partner!
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Idk about dating sites… Since dating is a very old activity I would guess the old fashioned methods work better.
IMO dating sites are very shallow; in the sense that you are missing very important information, like smell, the vibe, body language, face gestures etc. and postponing those to liking the person beforehand from an “AI match”.
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Thanks for your replies. I think it’s different for men online. I never get 100s of messages. I’m lucky if I get one a week. Everyone I message mostly just don’t respond. I think women are super picky in my opinion. I read that like 5% of men get 90% of all the women. Maybe I’m a bit bitter from so much rejection.
I actually did, but most were not…wonderful. Using humour in your ad goes a long way.
Met my wife online in 1998 through a singles ad. Married in 2000. Still married.
I’m not sure the apps they have now would have worked for us. They seem more designed to keep people using them than helping them meet others.
Keep trying and you’ll find the right one.
I would use a photographer for my profile picture in different places and tell my interests/hobbies. I think that is enough information.
I had posted my original ad in a similar thread:
Hope this is helpful?
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When I was dating there was no internet. I got married in 1993. I took my wife to prom in the 11th grade. We didn’t really start dating until I was in college though. She also lived in my neighborhood.
I met all the women or girls rather that I dated in school or at a nightclub. People looking to hook up go out. The bars are full of single people or people pretending to be single.
I had a friend who dropped out of high school at 16. I thought he was crazy. That’s where all the girls were.
Don’t you already know some people? Like Facebook friends or something.
You need a really good profile picture, something that shows off your features in a good but non-conceited way
Create a biography that’s funny, approachable and not too long, something that sums up what you’re like and what you’re looking for
If you can’t come up with a bio, you could go for the looking for folks who are like you route, and list off hobbies, interests, shows, music, etc. This one shouldn’t be too long either
When you message a lady, use an ice-breaker or mention something you liked or are interested in from their profile
All the characteristics I’ve listed above describe the guys I’ve shown interest in
Finally… be confident, put yourself out there and know you are going to get rejected, since it is a numbers game but also think to yourself what can you do differently the next time ?
All the best and gooduck!
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Thank you all for your replies. I will keep a positive attitude about it and not take it too seriously. I like all your suggestions. Thanks.
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