If anyone died, I’d wonder if I would shed a tear for them, and feel like my heart got ripped out or something. Except for one person maybe in my family. Or maybe two or three in my family. Actually only anyone in my family and that’s it.
What kind of person does that make me.
I think I just don’t know people enough. Also I haven’t liked myself enough to like other people too enough. Maybe.
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Im that way. I think its normal to form attachments and maybe protective factors peiple are always changing and growing its part of being a learner… So if ppl suck myelf I dont allow that pain in… Last heartbreak killed that. God send bc I wouldn’t ever feel that way if my partner left i would get over him. I love him but its a non dependent love a healthy love when I allow it to be.
Feeling like you need someone to make you feel something is not right its disgusting. And I’m glad for my growth as a person.
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I think that’s pretty normal.
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I feel kinda the same. Apart from those who are truly close to me, i wouldn’t shed a tear if everyone else were to suddenly disappear. But then, i think it is fairly normal to assign a higher emotional status on people you know and not people you don’t.
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I just woke up from a dream that my mum thought I died and so she disappeared and a note was left that she threw herself in the river.
Gosh that woke me up.
I don’t know how strongly she feels about me but that definitely woke me up cos it felt so real and shockingly sad in the dream.
This is true for me too. In fact, whenever anyone in my immediate or extended family dies, I’m surprised by how little I am affected emotionally by their deaths. I mean no sad feelings and no tears whatsoever. Even to the point where other people notice. I’m thinking that my meds make me emotionless. I didn’t shed one tear at my own son’s funeral, for instance. Nor at my mother’s.
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It makes me wonder when I die, if you turn the tables how would they feel.
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When I was younger I found out some news that was meant to be hidden. It was that my dad killed himself.
I didn’t feel anything about it then. I don’t know how I feel about it now either. Or don’t have much feeling still.
I think its a problem with a lack of closeness/intimacy.
Maybe learning to love yourself first can help.
I’m just now coming into more information about this.
In general I think this is a big problem worldwide. Even people in relationships can lack closeness.
But yeah… I feel very disconnected a lot. Sometimes there is almost a breakthrough it seems but I feel a want to withdraw from people still. It’s just too familiar.
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I think it’s a real shame about lack of closeness. But that’s life.
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I think even if you know a lot of people you’re only really close to a few of them. So only being sad at the loss of the few close ones sounds pretty normal. It’s no big deal.
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