yea…, I have not thought this through entirely
I would not want to see ‘my man’ being intimate with other women necessarily
so we would respect that
and yea…,
monogamy is nice and all
but i don’t think it works for me
i just don’t want to feel like fearing that my partner is flirting whilst i am being all non flirtatious or being suspicious or end up finding him cheating somehow whilst i have ‘stayed true’ what an effing waste of time
especially if that other is my friend
But open relationship is worse as you know he’s cheating since the beginning while in a normal relationship the chances of cheating happening are way way less.
Yea but not all men are gonna do that. It’s not really the natural course of things although people do fail. There are faithful people out there and real love does exist. The key is finding someone who’s morally grounded I suppose.
I feel like with schizophrenia the paranoia can make that terrifying but I hope it doesn’t ruin true love for you
but it is not cheating if we willingly agree on both of us having the freedom to flirt with whomever we want and such?
cheating is when they do that… behind your back and it is not something that you both had agreed on?
For me its cheating when my gf bangs other dudes even if I know it. Its much more emotionally traumatizing than normal relationships.
yea that is the thing i am scared to relapse out of worrying about such things such as doing stuff behind my back…
i think ‘true love’ has indeed been ‘ruined’ for me 
i guess we are quite different in that respect…,
but who knows once i try an open relationship it may indeed not be for me
but for now
i think it is …,
alright 
potentially…,
amazing
I have known many people in open relationships. Every single one of them are now divorced/broken up and have sworn off open relationships, with one exception.
I can tell you with 100% certainty that if you get into an open relationship because you think you will be less jealous, that is like moving to northern Canada in December because you don’t like being cold.
You will get very jealous. You will feel very insecure. You will cry yourself to sleep at night wondering if your partner likes their other partner more than you. Open relationships are not a solution to being emotionally unprepared for a traditional relationship. You need to be like 10 times more emotionally mature and communicate like 100 times more openly and respectfully. Not to mention the joint google calendars jfc those are the worst. Add to that the fact that its still totally possible to cheat in open relationships, if you have sex with someone the rest of the group doesn’t know about or break the agreed-upon parameters in some way.
Most of my friends who got into open relationships did it because one person cheated and they wanted to keep the relationship. Others got into it because they thought it would be easier than committing to one person. These are all terrible reasons.
I believe open relationships can work with the correct people. I have yet to meet that combination of people.
I like manogamy and enjoyed being married. Still. My Mrs played up a bit and I caught her out in some cheating behavior. Spoiled our relationship but after a divorce I now still keep in touch. It’s like some people just like the game of getting to relationships. Some like being in relationships but it works if your both on the same page.
I couldn’t deal with mulltiple parnters. One is plenty enough for me and even then it’s not really an option when your sitting on the pension.
lol fifteen fifteen
I never been in relationship and I told my friend, this thing is with us since world began, immediately he stopped me and said that is the only interest I have don’t ruin it. Then I stopped.
I feel like I am worthless because I wont have penetrative sex unless a condom is involved
I’m not looking to have sex with loads of people.
Personally.
It’s just that if I feel a partner is interested in someone else too, then I want to even it out.
I don’t feel I would get jealous.
Thanks for the long response 
I don’t understand what you mean. @339
I won’t have penetrative sex with a condom, it just feels, well… I don’t feel hardly anything, it becomes effort and work and not worth the effort. My ex gf didn’t like them either, she said it didn’t feel as good either and sometimes would go dry cause the experience just wasn’t an exciting turn on, and lube isn’t as good as the real thing, it was a total disaster. I’d rather just perform oral sex on each other, feels better, although not as good as sex. She eventually went on the pill, although there are risks with that.
Thanks for sharing that…
Yea my ex partner was the same he absolutely hated condoms.
I have heard this from almost every peraon who tells me they are entering into an open relationship. You will have an easier time if you don’t lie to yourself. You struggle with jealousy and insecurity. If your partner is having sex with other girls, you will spend 90% of your time wondering if he likes them more than you, if he thinks they are prettier, what their vaginas look like compared to yours, whether they are more fun to be around, etc.
I’m looking mainly for companionship. I’m older so my sexuality is not in the forefront. But having a man as a special friend has my interest.
This conversation reminds me of an episode of Seinfeld, where George says that now that he is engaged he is no longer using condoms…