Makes me kinda paranoid. Like almost 2 years ago now he met me at a bus stop and kept going on and on about his sexual lofe, referred to trans porn a lot without me saying anything about my gender identity, kept going on and on about my body, and on the bus he touched my butt randomly. Ive made a point to avoid him but today he stopped me on the street and kept talking about my body again and asked me to come home with him and he talked so fast without giving me much time to reply and he said something like he wanted a kiss one day and i said no, he said “i said ONE DAY you act like youre deaf or something”, i just said ok lol but he mentioned trans porn again and i was like yeeahhh i gotta go. Ive never had this issue and im not sure how to handle it. He lives close to me, doesnt know exactly where i live thankfully, but im scared to tell him to ■■■■off because he seems like the type that may retaliate but i dont know. Hes definitely a chaser
Wtf Have you reported him to any authorities already?
No i dont know who he is really. I know his first name now but thats about it
Wtf?! This guy sounds like a total creeper or an offender of some type.
I would report him for sexual harassment.
Definitely could see him doing some offender type of stuff if im not careful
yea you should definitely defend your personal space.
That sounds frightening af!
Please be careful.
Do you know any martial arts or basic self defense? Too bad I don’t live in your city I could show you some basics.
There’s also the option of carrying an EDC weapon like a knife or tazer.
Get a taser.
I don’t think you are being paranoid.
That is very concerning.
Be careful @Moon
Sounds very concerning
I dont know any self defense but ive definitely thought about it. My landlord lives right next door and hes a cool guy, we do each other favors a lot, maybe i could aak him to show me some things because hes also in martial arts. I do have pepper spray but like @Charles_Foster said i should get a taser
it doesnt have to turn into a physical altercation @Moon … self defence is good but thats what the police are for. If he bothers you again say “go away” if he doesnt go away scream at him “go away!”… if he still talks to you just call the police. thats sexual harrassment. Police know plenty of self-defence.
@POET is right too.
It sounds like you’ve been too afraid to tell this guy off.
That may be all it takes.
Being direct, tell him to â– â– â– â– off and never talk to you again.
Do that after you buy the taser.
i understand maybe you just want to avoid an altercation all together so maybe just skip the yelling part and tell him in a civil way “id like to be be left alone, thank you”.
and if he still bothers you just straight up call the cops. You shouldnt have to feel like you have to fight this person. The police can give him a stern talking to, you shouldnt have to. its harrassment.
I get what you’re saying,
But someone bold enough to talk about such inappropriate things and the touching,
Is not going to take a polite decline.
They’re going to see that as weakness and keep trying to wear you down.
I don’t know this guy,
But similar things have happened to me when I was young and I’ve learned to be direct,
Also a little aggressive.
And to carry a weapon.
Exactly why i havent really told him bluntly to leave me alone but i have several times ignored him and one day flat out moved away from him when he tried to get my attention. Today though i was kind of stuck.
You have to tell him to â– â– â– â– off.
Ignoring him and moving away aren’t “NO”.
I mean, they are to any normal person but this guy is clearly a predator.
Do you see what I mean?
Frankly he sounds mentally “off”
Is he elderly @Moon?
He said hes 40 and that checks out. I dont think hes off in that way, but i do feel like he thinks were friends even though weve had now 2 short conversations, and the first one was almost 2 years ago now.
Get a taser or pepper spray or mace. Once you have it, be very direct in your “No! Leave me alone!” You are in danger. I’m serious.
You need to set boundaries with this guy. Probably talk to the cops about him.