I find Hard to accept this illness…!!! cuz my interpersonal skill was poorest since 18 19 yrs old…My father never confessed he had SZ…he manage to work full time in low stress job…We never had good relations and i was socially awkward by that time…!!! I was grown up man but find difficult to communicate with parents since then i haven’t learned any lesson learn from then…I am having serious difficulties in my life…!!! I have to learn acceptance and positively in my life …that’s my new year goal…!!
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one thing that helped me, but i am not sure if it relates to yourself or not, is to not care so much what people think of me. for example if you don’t care rather or not people are talking about you can hear real or imagined voices and it won’t bother you. but that is too bad about your family. obviously you should care about what your family thinks. but i know for a long time i cared too much about what people at work and school thought about me and i caused me alot of problems.
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Yes ejm i have to stop deep thinking…!!!
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You’re right. The word acceptance does look deceptively simple on paper. To actual live it is quite another! When you’ve had it very early it doesn’t seem to get better with time. What can be done…
You certainly sound like you’ve got the right attitude. Do not give up, man. That is half the battle won, right? I hope 2017 is the year for you.
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For me every time I think I’ve come to this place of total self-acceptance I end up realizing there’s yet another part of myself I’m repressing that’s beating me up
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Feeling accepted by others and accepting myself for who I am are both things that vary a great deal depending on how I am feeling in the moment. When I’m down or paranoid I think that everyone thinks very badly of me and that makes me hate myself, but when I’m feeling ok, I’m ok with who I am. Worrying about what others think is a huge problem for me, so I try to think of the people closest to me, the people who really matter in my life. As long as they still love and care for me, and are not angry or upset with me, then I must be doing ok and can allow myself to accept myself the way I am. It’s hard to think this way when you’re down or when the voices/intrusive thoughts etc are telling you otherwise. But I think aiming to accept yourself the way you are is a really good goal, and people here on the forum have often reminded me that others probably spend a lot less time thinking about/discussing/judging us than we think.
It’s easier to think positively and rationally when you’re feeling ok than when you’re not, but I think self acceptance is hugely important in comparison to being accepted by others. The people who matter in life, the people who love you and who you love, will accept you as you are, and other people, strangers, casual acquaintances, it doesn’t matter so much what they think. Being ok with who you are, just the way you are, is probably one of the best things you can aim for and I truly hope you get there. Onwards and upwards in 2017 
It sounds to me that you want to increase your self-esteem. This may sound paradoxical, but the way you increase your self-esteem is by helping someone else. Volunteer at a homeless shelter, food pantry, soup kitchen, animal shelter/rescue, hospital, etc.
The best way to pick yourself up is to pick someone else up.
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