I was diagnosed almost 4 years ago now and most days I still can’t accept it
how do I come to terms with it? only my boyfriend is my full support system and he finds it hard sometimes, understandably. the nhs isn’t really very helpful, I’m lucky if I get to see my psychiatrist every 6 months!
any advice please! 
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I believe your time that you accept your illness will come.You had a boyfriend that take care of you,stay calm and patient!
It took me almost 5 or 6 years to accept my diagnosis. It just hit me like a ton of bricks one day after I had been consistently taking my meds for a while.
I can relate. It’s hard but after awhile it serves you better to accept the diagnosis as it is,and do all you can to remain stable.
I think that’s probably pretty normal in the beginning. I would drop it like a ton of bricks if given the chance but every thing you read says it is a lifelong disease so there is more than likely plenty of time to learn to accept it. Just try to not let it get the best of you.
thankyou, I feel like I use all my energy just trying to seem happy and normal, it’s exhausting
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That’s the struggle we all share in.
For me it was the opposite, mental illness became my identity. I was involved with the mental health system at a young age so I don’t remember being normal. I think it would be hard to start developing into an adult and then be struck with this illness. It was hard for me though too to miss so much school because I was constantly in and out of the hospital. My social skills aren’t what a normal 31 year old woman would have because I missed that stage of development. I’m starting to branch off from my diagnosis and create the life that I want. I think being mentally ill will always be a part of me, but I’m working at making it not as significant. 
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I’ve had sz for twelve years, and it took me ten years to understand it and accept it. When I first fell ill in 2003, I couldn’t accept my diagnosis, not could my mom, and I thought I just had a depression which when I went into remission was ‘cured’. I was symptom-free and med-free for five years and so I never thought I still had sz, until I relapsed gradually in 2012 and was hospitalised in 2013 and again in 2014. There at the hospital they re-confirmed my diagnosis and it was only then that I understood the nature of sz after doing research into it. But on my well days I still struggle to accept it sometimes, as its hard to believe you have sz when you are well. The meds are the proof though that I have something wrong with me. Because I need them, I understand I have an illness that won’t completely be cured.
But don’t worry, there is hope! Just take one day at a time…
I don’t accept mine either. I know I have symptoms but I think I can overcome them in time.
For me I know that stress management is a huge factor. And new attitudes toward it and also good coping strategies in place as well as tolerance to it
you just have to accept it…it is not a death sentence
you accept that the speed limit in the u.k is 70 mph…or in australia it is 100 kmh.
you have to accept your limitations and work around them.
take care 
I’m still struggling to come to terms with my life.
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my advice:Try to keep calm. Don’t let your voices get the best of you. I talk with them to figure out why, if they are, they are mad at me. I don’t know if it will help anyone else, but I hope my advice will help you come to terms with it. Maybe get to know your voices a little more???
It took me about six months to come to terms with my diagnosis. I luckily was put on a combinations of medications that made me very well treated. I decided to pursue psychology and now I am balls deep in research, looking at doctorate programs, I might just go to the school I am a junior at right now.
I also lifted 505lbs six times last summer.
Once you accept it, you can learn to live despite it. It is very difficult, but it is possible. I advise reading what the greatest of us have written- John Nash and Elyn Saks’ books are excellent for inspiring and motivating recovery. John Nash didnt take meds consistently so shame on him but still, he did great things.
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