A woman made me feel bad because she pointed out that people like me came into being when our mothers already had a baby. My sister was only 11 months old when my parents conceived me. Anyway, this woman was 5 years old before her mother had another child and it seemed like she wouldn’t let me forget it. It gave me such an unwanted and un-needed feeling. Then a doctor bawls me out for only wanting to do something once. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
i wasnt even supposed to be born, my mother had a faulty coil fitted, the chances of me being here are astronomical and yet here i am talking to you lol, i guess thats what you could call a miracle.
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Well - this is actually complete BS - that person doesn’t know anything about you or medical science. Its as though she told you that smoking was good for you - she really doesn’t know what she’s talking about.
Don’t let the ignorance of other people get you down.
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It made sense to me because babies demand a lot of time and energy.
Well - there is no scientific evidence to support that theory of hers.
Lots of people have babies close together (think of all the twins or triplets that are born) and its very rare for them to get schizophrenia or have other mental health issues.
So do my wife’s parents. 
10-96
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I think I’m just having trouble justifying myself. I have it good and my paranoia just won’t let me enjoy it.
My dad had a vasectomy whilst my mum was pregnant with me! Don’t think I was planned.
Think my mum was happy enough with a girl
That’s too bad. What can you do? What do you have to justify?
People can be real assholes with those little jabs they give your self esteem. I would just dismiss her.
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That I am a needy life like any other. Sometimes I feel guilty that I have so much. This is all noticed since I just bought a car. I must change the guilt into gratitude.
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@PinCushion, have you ever been afraid of becoming like your mother?
You know, pob, I hardly knew my parents. But I find them in me a lot. I know they suffered. I know I was a scape goat for their suffering, I know that’s why I was helpless about preschoolers and also why I never had any children. I think they stressed formal education because, like me, they only came out of their shells in the safety of school. When I find I am being my parents, I only think “How can I heal this.” They also didn’t understand that the head injury I suffered made me slow. I remember not understanding toileting myself even in kindergarten.
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Well, don’t. There are so many other people who have so much more who really don’t deserve it. People in our position have so little. We deserve what little we have.
How do you stop a feeling?
Talk yourself out of it.